My boyfriend and I are a year apart and I'm graduating this year. I haven't decided if I'm going to college right away or take a year off to save money. He wants to go upstate for college, I'll gladly wait a year and move up there with him but I'm really scared we won't be able to handle a year with us not in the same school. He loves me and I love him but I'm worried that he'll end up being like the other guys I've dated and just get tired abd leave. I doubt it tho because he's actually a good guy, but still... Anyway, I don't know if I should do a spell to help ensure our love. In my experience love spells usually screw tvubgs up more so I'm hesitant to do it. Do you guys think I should wait and just talk to him? I'm scared he'll get freaked out because it's kinda like planning our future and I know sometimes that scares boys. What should I do?
I personally do not use magick on my boyfriend without his express permission. You could always use cartomancy or tea reading in order to help ease your mind :)
this doubt is more your own insecurities, take the year doing shadow work and basically coming to terms with these fears. this will help your relationship and any possible future ones [no, i am not saying you're going to break up, the future is always changing, as are you] a little space can be a good thing, it gives both of you time to work on loving yourselves and individuals, and appreciating each other. [this coming from someone who use to live 3 hours away from her boyfriend for the first 4 years of our relationship]
as for spells, i wouldn't cast a spell over him without his knowledge. while i know of spells to keep people from cheating i feel that level of fear/doubt can be a slow poison to a relationship. talk to him about your concerns, then try trust him. [and as i mentioned above, work through these fears by looking within and facing these fears, from your post you sound to have some past hurt that still holds you] if you were to cast a spell, have him be a part of it. say a love potion you make and drink together [aka a smoothie with love/passion ingredients like strawberry, cherry, apple juice] with both of you pooling your energy and desire into the drink you both make a commitment to stay faithful to each other.
as for the year gap, in my opinion, wait a year. take that time to gain work experience, save money, and stay close to him so while you may not see each other every day after class, you can at least have weekend dates and still have the opportunity to see each other easier than if you were a few hours away. plus the stress of college, being somewhere new, not knowing anyone, studying and working will add an extra layer of strain to the relationship. best of luck to you two.
