So if anyone remembers my previous post I was asking about people and emotions and we talked about empathy being the most likely possibility. So my best friend is my Guinea pig (metaphorically) and we discovered I can read people kinda well but through physical contact (like holding hands) here's my problem.
I genuinely cannot control whatever this is. The last time I tried to use it I got my best friend to focus on a single thought or memory and keep looping it without telling me what, and no matter what I tried I could faintly hear his voice in my head but not distinct words. I've tried a couple of techniques you guys suggested last time but nothing has changed and I dont know what to do. I can randomly read people (handed someone my phone and our fingers touched and I immediately got their feelings as clear as day) but when I do anything else with intent it fails me. Does anyone know what to do here
A few bots of practice does not a master make. It is achieved in steps. Small changes and discoveries. Bit by bit. There will never be an action-montage of attempts over a few months resulting in suddenly having a complete breakthrough. As frustrating as it is. It can feel like you are stuck in place, gunning the accelerator but just spinning your wheels and not moving. But that isn't true. Just because you don't see movement it doesn't mean it isn't happening. But one day you will look backwards, comparing where you are now with how you were then, and I guarantee you will surprise yourself in how much you didn't realise your skill has evolved. Though, perhaps, in a direction you didn't expect.
Patience;
Allow that time to happen. Stop trying to force progress and just let yourself practice. Always work to grow, but allow that growth to happen at the pace it is meant to. You can't make a tree grow any faster by pulling on its branches. Pull too hard and you will only hurt it, or even kill it making you lose the shade it might have given later. Feed the tree, care for it, and marvel at the splendor as it is slowly revealed. One day it will bloom. Don't worry about making it happen, focus on keeping it healthy to help it happen in the best way it can.
Let go;
Understand that there is a possibility you aren't meant to control your skill in the way you want to. Some things are there only when they are needed. When they can be used to a purpose aside from entertainment or entreating to ego. Sometimes, there is a reason some things can't be done. Maybe there is something else entirely that you need to learn about or practice first. If you aren't getting traction going in one direction, maybe think about other directions you could go for a while. Work on yourself in another way. Consider attitudes or fears that might be getting in the way and work on improving yourself there. Getting back to the tree analogy, Plants always grow towards the sun. But the sun moves. To grow best you should allow yourself to move too.
