Re: I am looking for a spell By: Brysing Moderator / Adept
Post # 4 Nov 08, 2010
You don't need a spell. This is emotional blackmail, and nobody should give in to that!
Your friend should tell this man, in no uncertain terms, to get out of her life. If he threatens suicide, tell him to go ahead. At 30 years of age she should not have to put up with this rubbish.
Well if you have told her already, and she is still with him, then there is nothing that you can do. It is up to her to get out of the relationship. She must say that she wants out, and then stick to it. If he chooses the suicide option, then that is his decision. But, being one who was in this situation, he will not choose to end his life. These guys (and girls) play emotional blackmail with people. You are led to believe that it will be you fault if they end their life; something no one will want on their conscience.
So, please try to get her to just walk away and not look back.
Believe me, I have tried. The ONLY reason I'm asking here now is that to a degree, I think some of her fears may have some validity.
I don't disagree with your points, they are all well made, and I agree in principle, however having seen first hand the dynamic going on, as long as it has, and knowing her as I do, I'm more than just a bit concerned. I'm not looking to cast a dark spell, although the thought had crossed my mind. My preference would be something to get him to release his hold on her, and leave of his own accord, so she won't be tethered by fear or worry. Sadly, regardless of the "Logic" of your points (to which I agree) there is also the matter of what is, is.
I mean, if it was me, and some numbskull I knew I wasn't supposed to be with started sqwalking about killing herself if I left, I'd break out the video camera and say "Here, let's put it on tape, I'm sure there's some show that'll pay big money for a fool knocking themselves off" and the point hopefully would be made, they'd be fine, and I'd be free.
With her, that isn't the case. I have tried the "just sit back and do nothing" approach long enough.
Which is why I was asking here. If that was a bad idea, then I apologize.
If all else fails, she should call the Suicide Hotline where she lives. Undoubtedly this man is in need of some serious help which magic can do nothing for.
Re: I am looking for a spell By: Brysing Moderator / Adept
Post # 11 Nov 08, 2010
I like the idea of the Suicide Line; but there is another point. In this type of situation the woman herself may be in physical danger. More than once this sort of idiot has taken his rejection to the extreme. To protect her from his "influence" I would suggest an amethyst pendant. (natural crystal,not a shaped jewel). If she is in physical danger it is a police matter.