Okay. Sooo. She is my first love. I lost my virginity to her two years ago. I'm 28 now.
She didn't want to go back to her husband but she has no means to take care of her and her 3 kids. He started watching her phone records.. she requested he took her off his plan he declined. Everytime she text me, he would yell at her threaten to leave her and the kids.
Then he got really nervous towards the end. He said he would fight for her his marriage. Now keep in mind they only had two children now when i'm with her. This dude didn't give two shits about she flushed her wedding ring down the toilet in front of him he didn't even care.. Then he sees a very attractive male like me and all of a sudden gets jealous. Like wtf man, you didn't want to help her with the bills she had to get a job and you didn't want to help with the kids but all of sudden since i'm in the picture he has a change of heart.
Then she goes back.. leaves me heartbroken for a whole year crying. She gets pregnant right away when she goes back to him. He only did it to make her stay with him. She told me she loved me alot and wanted a future with me but her kids come first and she wanted the kids to grow up int he same house at mom and dad.. which I told her would not last. And the funny thing is, he was watching her cycle to make sure she wouldn't get pregnant.. anyways.. minus two years later.. she doesn't talk to me all. I told her happy birthday a few weeks ago didn't even get a reply. Bad weather came her way and I called like crazy this week to see if she was okay but she ignored both my calls and my texts..
But what's funny is, she doesn't seem happy I can still see her facebook she hasn't blocked me she just has it where I can friend her or message her. No pictures of her and her husband at all just like back then.. at first she was posting pictures when she went back but now it's all about her kids again and i'm an aquarius and could possibly be a medium myself as I always "know stuff" if you know what I mean.. I know several of you have the gift but I think she is miserable again because his act didn't hold up.. I can feel it in my heart like our spirits are connected..
She's not happy, she's not safe, and she's not secure. And above all she doesn't want this. She doesn't love him. That's what happened.
She needs a friend to keep her safe. Someone to stand by her and make sure she's ok. That's what's most important. Now you can take over from here. Try your hardest to keep things from getting worse.
Okayyy. We pretty much lost contact over the past year as she hasn't been responding to me and I know it's only because she is on lockdown.. I love her with all my heart would take care of her forever I'll never love another woman like her.. I also see her newborn and have love for her as well all her kids are special to me.. I really wish I had met her before she married.. Hopefully fate puts us together i've thought long and hard about what would happen if I ever seen her again I couldn't imagine..
Hate to be the wet blanket here but the situation which you are describing to us is getting out of hand. What I'm about to say is going to be a hard slap in your face into reality but thats the way I intend it to be. At this moment I am beyond showing sensitivity to you and to this situation. First of all, I would like you to answer this question; These horrible stories you are tellling us about her, are they moments which you witnessed first hand? Were you there physically present when some of these events took place or are did she retell these stories to you? I hope you understand my implications here.
I would like to make clear that your relationship with her is equally as destructive as her current relationship. YOUR OBESSION WITH HER IS NOT HEALTHY.
Have you evaluated the situtation and considered that perhaps the part you play in this situation adds to the problem? Clearly in your paragraph:
"This dude didn't give two shits about she flushed her wedding ring down the toilet in front of him he didn't even care.. Then he sees a very attractive male like me and all of a sudden gets jealous. Like wtf man, you didn't want to help her with the bills she had to get a job and you didn't want to help with the kids but all of sudden since i'm in the picture he has a change of heart."
No-one needs to be a psychologist or a marriage counsellor to see the projection of insecurities and JEALOUSY in this paragraph alone, but more importantly because of your presence in the "picture" her husband has changed the way he treats her, clearly your presence was one of the trigger of teh situation she's in. You are a part of the problem. You need to wake yourself up out of the Knight in Shining Armour Syndrome, or the Saviour Complex and realise that you are a part of the reason why she is getting hurt. And just to be clear, I'm not saying that she should be with her husband or that you shouldn't break their marriage up because there are countless red flags going off in her marriage that are pointing to an abusive relationship, just for example:
He checks her phone record without her permission
He threatens to leave her and their kids
The copious amount of jealousy also insecurity
Financial instability
The fact that he tracks her cycle
Pregnancy to make someone stay!?
And the fact that she is not happy
It clearly is an abusive relationship which needs to end but I'm sorry to say you are NOT the solution to her problems. She needs a friend she can trust, NOT A LOVER. If you cared even an ounce for her your first thought would be to get her the help she needs which is not a ring from you. My experience from friends in abusive relationship is that you can't help them by making a safe haven for them. They need to stand up for themselves and change their own life to break the cycle of abuse and more importantly for the sake of the kids she needs help, the form that you cannot provide. If you care for her as much as you say you do you will recognise this and get her to open eyes and get the help she needs.
Now I don't know what part of the world you are in, but below are so numbers to women help hotlines: (some of these hotlines help both men and women)
USA: National Domestic Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)
espanol hotline 651.772.1611
Brazil: +55 51 211 2888 Dial 180 for women's helpline
Canada: AWHL 1.866.863.0511
India: Women Helpline 011 23378044/ 23378317/ 23370597
South Africa: Helpline (+27 11) 715-2000
These are the ones I can think of immediately, this goes out to anyone regardless of gender, sexuality or race, Please recognise when help is needed and please reach out, theres always someone to listen to you and someone who can help. And remember a fortune reading or divination is not the help you need in dangerous situations or cases of domestic abuse.
To answer you question TPool777 my opionion of this reading is that its not a trustworthy reading. Divination or fortune readings do not work that way because your future is not set in stone. I want to add that if you truly believe that you two are meant to be together then I will be so so happy if one day you two will be happy and stable together. That would be the most beautiful thing in the world but at the moment in the situation she is in you two cannot have a healthy stable and happy relationship. In your own words to her "it would not last". If you loved her and cared for her; let her go. Help yourself by helping her and then in the future when the two of you are in a healthy, sane state of mind I truly from the bottom of my heart wish you two will find peace together, but please not right now the way things are.
Well I did witness a bunch of things that happened.
I guess I am trying to save her. But we lost contact over two years ago. I've had time to heal. I just started a new career and I have a possibly multi million dollar settlement coming my way.
She gave me her new number like 3 days ago. She hasn't been ignoring me she just changed her number..
I honestly don't know much about what is happening in her life now. I think her life got easier because her mom came to the states for a better life and to help take care of the kids.
I just want her to truly be happy but I know she isn't. If I didn't love her like I said, I would have told everyone about the affair. Her husband her church but I Didn't. I let her go REALLY. I stopped messaging her and calling her for a whole year. WE just now reconnected and the new born is about to be a year old.
I've tried dating since her I just can't connect with any of them like her.
