To your first question Mrs/Ms. Ladydawn.... Usually Love spells cause backfire. You are trying to control someone's will. And that is why it has happened. Your negativity is most likely a backfire. use sage and maybe break the spell you used.
In most cases blowing out the candle breaks the spell but just to be sure, I'd make sure the person u cast the love spell on eats a pistacchio nut or two. When eaten, pistacchios break love spells. And the above poster is right, love spells should not be used when messing with free will.
i was under the impression that love spells, or any spells for that matter, don't mess with free will, but instead move energy to help your cause (if that makes sense) :) is anyone able to explain how it actually works, as i'm brand new to this. the candle only burned for under 10 minutes and i got rid of everything. hopefully i didn't cause any harm
Magick is but energy this is true, but if you influence someone to do something is that not in a way your fault?
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a spell may not directly effect the free will of a person, if thats how you want it as the caster. A spell can be designed to completely overcome someone, however, this usually results in harm to the caster because they are not physically able to muster enough energy to complete the spell. you may not have intentionally caused harm but you shouldn't dabble in magick, before attempting any major spell like that you should have a good deal of practice, May I suggest using magick to send them a messenger, maybe a stag? they are great for giving messages
i wanted to share with you guys an experience i had today that i think explains all this. i went to the "Basics" section on this site and learned all about meditation and grounding. when i first started meditating, i tried to image the desired outcome. as i was doing this, negative outcomes and consequences would enter my mind and i'd push them out. these same thoughts and images kept returning, and it dawned on me that they were coming up for a reason. even if i do get the results i want, there will be consequences, direct and indirect on myself and others.
that's what the negative energy i felt must have been, either a warning or an intuition i didn't even know existed :) this experience taught me the importance of meditation and really examining the situation. i decided not to follow through with the spell. thanks for all your input guys!