I have a family member coming to visit for the holidays that is pure evil. I have protected my home and children and we have a safe and nurturing environment . Any advice on what to keep the evil spirit at bay while they're here for the time being. There is no other place for this family member to go and out of respect of who they are I am not able to say you can't stay. They just have the tendency to bring bad luck and despair. I have worked very hard getting to this place of content in my home and life that I don't want this spirit to come in and destroy everything I worked hard for.
How long are they going to stay? What is it that you do not like about them? The are going to be a guest in your home, so they hopefully will respect your space. If not, tell them to be nice or leave.
for starters you claim they're 'pure evil' [which i don't believe anything is pure evil or pure good] but then say you just tend to bring misfortune where they go. you also say 'out of respect of who they are i am not able to say you can't stay' i was raised to believe respect is earned not awarded, you can be nice and civil, but if this person goes around kicking puppies for fun you don't owe them regardless of blood relation. i would reflect on the situation at hand, and decide what is best for your family [aka the people living in your home] as they are your priority and you wish to protect them. if it's one night, is the risk of some bad luck worth it? if it's one month and the potential someone could get hurt is it work it? [you don't have to tell me your answer or give more detail, just something you should think about]
you have spent a long time raising your homes vibrational energy to make it a warm, safe, inviting atmosphere, you can keep it that way by not worrying about 'oh no, this persons bad luck' or whatever you feel, this can open a door to negative energy which can hide in dark corners of your home and effect the energy you've built up. [you might also try avoiding blaming this visitor for every little accident while they visit as this too can build some negative energy vibes in your home]
i would make some protection charms for your loved ones [bless a necklace or item they always wear] sprinkle some protection dirt/incense/salt [whatever you choose] around your property line to keep out negative energy as well. stick to your normal routine as best as possible to keep the energy consistent in your home, once the person leaves, cleanse the house, maybe cast a luck spell, and/or ask your deity to watch over/bless your home [can be done before or after, whatever you feel best]
overall, i would try not to worry too much [but if they're really nasty i would think about what's best for everyone] i'm not one for cutting people out of your life, distance yes, but everyone has their own struggles so i feel bad telling someone 'you're too negative, i'm out'. the only person i've basically disowned is my uncle [which hurts because i love my aunt] he was always very toxic, but last year he threatened me [long story] and at that point i was like 'ok, we're done here' and left. if it's a big family gathering i'll go [i've felt nervous a few times worried he'll start something] but otherwise not worth it. blood doesn't mean anything imo. of my 3 closest friends, only one speaks with both her parents [it's her aunts/uncles/cousins she refuses to speak with] don't feel obligated because this persons a relative. you don't have to do anything if they're terrible to you at any chance [if it's just a personality thing, i also don't feel you should be forced to look after them due to 'family obligation' but if it's just for a weekend, reflect on your situation and ask yourself if it's worth it. include your whole household in your reflection]
I'm with Neko and Oroboros; feel free to plop down a few charms our sigils to help things go smoothly, but if things get too bad, ask them to leave. I find problems involving interpersonal relationships are best solved interpersonally.
You sound like you really don't want them to come so don't let them come. I had Christmas ruined for me last year by having a guest that I really didn't want there. It was awful. I am not hosting Christmas dinner this year because of it. I wish I would have thought more about it instead of just letting this person into my home when I didn't want to. I did it for the sake of family but they were very terrible to me and made me extremely uncomfortable. I wouldn't if I were you unless not letting them come would cause more trouble for you and your family. I hope this is helpful. Good luck. No matter what you decide, I hope it all works out and that you have a wonderful time.
