It may be more productive to find the source of these emotions, and approach from that direction.
I'll use myself as an example. I've struggled with a bad temper for a very long time. I'll try to keep this short. After many attempts with different methods, which did help some things but not all, I read about how some very different emotions can well up and be expressed as anger. It clicked, and while I am still going through this long process, I have a new angle to approach some of my most difficult anger issues.
I have to refrain from being too specific because it might be seen as getting into aspects of diagnosing and treating things which I simply cannot do. But I do believe with a lot of research as well as a lot of self-examimation, you can make a lot of headway.
I do know the reasoning behind the emotions. The problem is trying to find something that will "actually" help me. There are many people suggesting that i go talk to someone, which i have and that is why I'm not doing it. Talking to someone doesn't really help in anyway. I do a ton of coding and listening to music that distracts me, the real issue is that it does not work for long.
With my emotions, I have been carrying it for long periods of time.
You can search 'anger guided meditation' on youtube and it will bring up some options. I've got an angry family member who swears by them.
Said family member also doesmixed martial arts for release and say that in conjunction with the meditation it's really effective. -Can confirm: They are a lot more chill now.
suppressing and ignoring won't help [speaking from experience] look into shadow work, meditation, journaling, and grounding [therapy is another incredible option] it's not a quick fix or an easy way out, but it will solve your problem and help you.
I feel you. I've had a lot of problems w anger (a lot of it just plain suppressed) for a long time. It sucks.
First, you guys might think it's dumb, but exercise seems to help me. Seriously. I can find that negative energy, fuel it into a good hard run, and often feel better. The key is to not perseverate on things that may be making you upset, because you'll just keep feeling bad. But for feeling irritable/angry and you don't know exactly why? works pretty good.
I agree with several of the posts on meditation/journaling as well. Being able to unpack and listen to what your feelings are trying to tell you can help them clear out. If there is something specific you are feeling angry/upset about, it's ok to take some time to sit with the feeling and acknowledge it.
If there are specific things bugging you some people find it purgative to write them down and burn them (in a safe way of course).
Lastly if you're really, really struggling I would definitely recommend finding a trained therapist/counselor to talk to. It's ok to talk w family and friends, but the job of a counselor is literally to help you work thru things. Family and friends mean well but can complicate stuff with advice you might just find annoying, their own perspectives/stories, etc. Therapists are there to help you figure out strategies to work thru this stuff. If you're worried I'd venture to say that most people have some confusing issue or other problem in their lives that would be helped by learning some new coping skills; it's certainly rarer to find someone who would not benefit from the new perspective therapy would offer.
Instead of maintaining perhaps exploring what is it that is making it so difficult to let go of your anger. All the suggestions I have read are fantastic. Here is what I have done in the past take a black candle and a mirror. Invite Lucifer in. Not for possession mind you, but start talking to him about your anger. It doesn’t matter if you can see him or not. Ask for some form of answer as you sleep. Works every time for me. You will understand your anger more and with that you should be more capable of handling it. Just advice. My best to you
Do you have a place to release those emotions? I grew up very very angry....and I was only encouraged to "express myself" by talking about it and it NEVER helped. Therapy did NOT help. I understood where the anger was coming from, how to calm down, but not how to RELEASE IT.
How do I release it now? Going for a long, exhausting run. Mixing sprints into it. Channeling sheer rage into harmless activities like that. Chopping wood, practicing martial arts, raking leaves, cleaning my yard. If you can find a place nobody will call the police, scream with all the rage in your heart and let it all out. Punch the ever loving life out of a punching bag. But always keep those activities solo, no need to drag someone else into your emotions.
I always find that, at the end of whatever activity releases the anger, I wind up exhausted and crying. A lot of the anger really stems from fear, feelings of helplessness, not being good enough, etc. My emotions get so bottled up that I forget to feel them, and then they fester and turn into anger.
I am a peaceful person. Deep down all I want is to be peaceful and quiet. But I cannot reach that state until I release all the garbage that rots when you set it aside and hope to forget about it
