On the message boards I frequent, and in our coven e-mail, I see numerous posts from people who have just heard about Wicca and who are wanting to become Wiccans..and who are then saying they don't know a thing about it. While the growing interest in this path is a good thing, rushing headlong into something you don't know much about and which will change your life in may ways is not such a great idea. So let's stop a moment and consider some of the following issues...
First of all, why do you want to be a Wiccan? Is it because it is ** kewl ** to be spooky and to wear all that neat jewelry and to shock and amaze your friends and parents? That's not being a Wiccan, that's just playing dress up. My generation tripped our parents by dressing as Hippies, growing our hair long, and wearing love beads. Same thing, different clothes. Most of us grew out of that phase, and many former Hippies wear three-piece suits to their successful businesses these days. When people smirk and say it's just a phase you're going through are they right?
Are you doing it because it gives you a sense of your own power over others? Certainly there is power inherent in Wicca and in Witchcraft, and it can make your life better in many, many ways. But it is power that comes from within yourself and makes you a stronger person..it is not power over others through the use of fear or magic. If you are looking for a spiritual path that will help you grow into a better person, then explore this one more thoroughly. If not, you won't find your answers here.
Are you prepared to be shunned because you are " different "; or to lose your job, your friends, maybe even your home because you are a "Satanist"? Wicca have nothing to do with Satan, but that is not what the public believes. Traveling this path can get very uncomfortable..are you ready for this?
Understand that Wicca is a religion, not a matter of casting spells or doing magic (although magic is a part of Wicca). As a religion it has certain beliefs and practices that need to be followed. It will likely be a religion which is very different from that you grew up practicing with your family. Are you comfortable walking away from the religion of your childhood and becoming a follower of the spiritual journey of Wicca?
Remember too that being a Wiccan is a two-way process. You get out of the Craft mostly as much as you are willing to put into it. The Goddess grants us many things, but in return she asks our service as well. If you aren't willing to do the work, then you will likely get little from the journey.
When we take on new students, one of the first things we have them do is the following exercise. Try this. Do it as honestly as you possibly can. It will give you a much better idea of what you want and where you are going.
Take a piece of paper and divide it into two columns. Label one column " What I want from the Craft ", and the other " What I bring to the Craft ". Then start listing things as they come to mind. Again..be very very honest with yourself.. When you think you are done, put the paper away for a couple of weeks. Then take it out and consider what you have written. Add anything new that comes to mind, take off anything that doesn't seem right now. Then put it away again. Keep doing this until you are really satisfied that the list is as complete and accurate as you can make it. Then sit down with your list and think about what you have written, realizing that you have made a contract between yourself and the Gods. If the path still seems right..go for it..
Now take the paper and put it away for six months or so. Take it out then and see how much you have grown. At that point, you may want to redo the exercise to reflect your new goals and commitments.
One thing you will learn quickly on this path is that it is a learning and growing process which never ends. It is always a good idea to reassess where you are and where you want to go on a regular basis. That way you are unlikely to find that you have taken a wrong turning on your journey.