Best time: the waning moon.
You will need:
1 black candle
1 black piece of paper
1 black pen
1 bulb of garlic
1 block of ice
1 knife
1 stick of patchouli incense or a charcoal disk and leaves of patchouli crushed to a powder
Cast circle, using the full ritual or snapping in an instant circle, lighting the incense as part of this. Sit and meditate on the problems that you are experiencing with your parents. Go over individual arguments in your mind and dwell on hurtful things that were said. When you are ready carve your first name and your parents first names into the black candle with your knife, then lick your thumb and trace it over the names to seal them. Now light the candle, take a deep breath and intone:
Flame of night
Burning bright,
Illuminate within me
A spark of light.
Power of fire,
Lift me higher,
Purge from me
My darkest hour.
Now pick up your black pen and on the black paper write out all the sadness and anger inside you. It may come as sentences, it may come as words, it may come as pictures. Write on both sides of the paper and if necessary, write on top of other writing. When the paper is coated with your feelings pick up the bulb of garlic and slice the top off it with your knife.
Hold the garlic in the hand that you write with and trace a big ???X??? on both sides of the paper from top to bottom. As you do this say:
I release pain and woe,
From within me sadness flows.
I am ready to forgive and forget,
New ways of being come for the best
Now light the patchouli incense and into your circle invoke the ancient Greek Goddess and Patroness of Witches, Hecate, by saying:
Hecate, Goddess of Old,
Now bless me with your presence threefold.
Feel the powerful and magically transformative energy of Hecate manifest herself in your circle. When you feel her presence, wrap the paper around the block of ice and say:
Hecate in your dark night,
Freeze these words so that I might
Be free to think well and good,
New ways of being are understood,
Now say your spell sealing charm:
This I ask for the good of all
So that harm may come to none,
So mote it be,
My will be done.
Now thank and farewell Hecate, close your circle and bury the paper and the garlic under a tree, thanking it for its hep in sealing your spell.
Part Two:
Best time: The waxing moon
You will need:
1 blue candle
A blue ribbon
A stick of lavender incense (or burn lavender on a charcoal disk)
A picture of you are your parents together
Half a cup of crushed almonds
A knife
Cast circle, either in the full ritual or the instant, and light you incense as part of this, carve your first name and your parents first names into the candle with your knife, and again seal them by licking your thumb and tracing over the names.
Light the candle and sprinkle the crushed almonds around it in a circle. As you do this invoke the Goddess of the waxing moon, Artemis.
Artemis bless me with your presence
As you float in starry heavens,,
May our love grow strong and good
As you grow waxing and full.
Feel the silvery maiden Artemis, and her blossoming, loving energy fill your circle. Hold the photo in your hands, picturing your parents and yourself laughing together and enjoying wonderful happy times. When this is clear and strong in your mind, wrap the blue ribbon around the photo three times and tie the ribbon in five knots as you say the following:
By one, my will is done.
By two, it will come true.
By three, so mote it be.
By four, for the good of all.
By five, so shall love thrive.
Thank Artemis for her blessing and close the circle. Keep the photo and the candle in your bedroom and every night leading up to the full moon light it for a while and hold the photo in both your hands as you gaze into the candle, picturing you and your parents getting along brilliantly, having a great conversation and sharing lots of love.
Part three:
Best time: The Full Moon
You will need:
1 white or silver candle
1 stick of jasmine incense
1 white flower, perhaps a gardenia or a rose
Silver ribbon
1 piece of rose quartz crystal
1 white velvet cloth bag or white cardboard box
Sea salt
A knife
Cast circle, either in the full ritual or the instant, and light you incense as part of this, carve your first name and your parents first names into the candle with your knife, and again seal them by licking your thumb and tracing over the names.
Light the candle and sprinkle the sea salt around it in a circle. Hold the flower and the crystal in your hands and invoke the Goddess of the Full Moon, Selene:
Queen of the Sky, Great mother, Selene,
I ask you to bless my parents and me
That we may live in harmony
Growing together happily.
As you feel Selene???s wise and intensely loving presence fill your circle, place the flower, crystal and the photo with the blue ribbon in the bag or box. Wrap the silver ribbon around it and tie seven knots as you say:
One is love
Two is truth
Three is sacred
Four is balance
Five is power
Six is passion
Seven is strength
Now you have a magical amulet that will continue your spell working so that your relationship with your parents gets better and better. It will also work to help you move through and learn from the challenges that will naturally persent themselves, rather than getting caught up in destructive and unproductive patterns.
To finish the forgive and forget spell, hold your amulet and say your spell sealing charm:
This I ask for the good of all
So harm may come to none.
So mote it be,
My will be done.
Thank Selene and close your circle. Keep your amulet either on your alter or somewhere safe. You can charge it up whenever you need to by lighting the silver candle and asking for Selene???s blessing as you did above.