that's a great spell Witch, unfortunately, it's harder to cast than you may think. while i've thankfully never been in a situation where i was physically abused, i was in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship for many years i'm still effected by. my aunt was horribly abused for many years but refused to leave him because she felt like it was her fault. when she finally left him, her oldest daughter hated my aunt for leaving her father, and has broken away from the family. we recently found out she is now abusing her husband and two children. it's a viscous cycle. plus the cops can't do too much about it.
anyway, jaydedlady, you might want to look into spells to increase your inner strength. i don't think their is such a spell that would change someone's personality. maybe for a little while, but not forever. it's hard, but you [or whoever the spell is for] need to get strong, and realize no one deserves to be abused, and leave. everyone is loved by someone, love comes in many different forms, talk to your parents, or best friend, or whoever you trust, and ask for help. i know it's easier said than done, but you deserve better, and you are the only one who can fix this situation. the person who is being abusive most likely won't change. it hurts, because despite the abuse, you love them, but there will come a point where you will realize there's someone better who won't abuse you. [i know i keep using 'you' but i mean whoever's the victim.]
spell wise, a spell for confidence or inner strength, and/or a protection spell, but this won't solve the problem.
When i was 2nd grade i was pretty much abused by few guys.. they would beat me up if i didnt listen to them and i got life time proof of it.. guess what.. i was in hospital.. my parents spoke to guys parents.. they called some community that is like protecting us from abusers bla bla.. did it help? Nope.. theres a spell go and learn to fight and defend tho dont get ur ego up.. thats how i got rid of abusers.. if they see u can defend urself they might leave but.than again knowing idiots it can become even worse.. thats life huh... but bad thing abusing causes depression and fear.. kind of annoying.. i hate it.. but gl maybe police in ur country is smarter heh.. i saw some1 tried to kill a woman.. and guess what.. police didnt even bother.. its crazy..