HELP!! I have been found out and I think my husband is going to leave me. I have been a secret witch for almost a year and my husband will not even let me have tarot cards in the house. (I have them of course). It is killing me living in secret and his constant accusations crush me. Just the way I dress and my reverence for plants, stones and oils has got him angry. And it's because he is catholic and has had a bad experience with another witch who placed a binding spell on him which led to things being thrown across the room at him any time he phoned his ex. ((clearly the spell worked well). But I'M NOT LIKE THAT! he blames tarot cards on a friend's suicide for goddess's sake! I feel like I can't be me with him but at the same time he is my soul mate- PLEASE HELP ME dO I STAy with ThIS Guy AND live a LIE OR BREAK FREE?
Re: Husband will leave me By: StarSwimmer / Novice
Post # 4 Jul 11, 2014
I would suggest marriage counsuling just like the others said, but if he still doesn't accept your believes and keeps on dumping on you for it, I would say dump him like a sack of bricks. In a marriage, you're supposed to accept every part of your spouse and their believes. You're supposed to accept every part of each other's lives, and if he can't do that, then he isn't worth staying with. It'll just lead to a cycle of endless emotional abuse. That's just my personal opinion though.
Star Swimmer is right. If your husband can't respect your beliefs in the end, he isn't worth it. Don't try to stay with someone who isn't capable of loving you for who you are. Of course, try marriage counseling first. I wish you luck.
If your husband hates witches because his ex cast on him, I don't think casting a spell to keep him is a wise move.
Marriage counciling is your best option. Tell him then, the councilor can keep the peace as a third party observer. Be calm, explain yourself, make him understand you are not like his ex and would never cast over him without his permission because it would be harmful to his will. When done, listen to his side of things, don't interupt, just take it in, think, and respond when he's finished.
Sadly this might end badly. Some people just cannot accept some things. My good friends fiance is Catholic, while she does not agree with Wicca, she let's him practice his faith. He just can't raise the kids Wiccan. My boyfriend is a spiritualist, while not a witch, he welcomes and embraces my views. My other friends boyfriend would say he was fine with her faith, but constantly mocked her for her views so she wound up converting to make him stop. Point is there are many people, many views, if your husband can't find some middle ground, he's not your soul mate. Harsh but a soul mate accepts you warts and all. You may not always agree, but your soul mate wouldn't force you to change something as big as your faith system to please themself.
In the end it is up to you, all we can do is give you advice. You choose your own path. Look within and discover what's more important for yourself.
thank you to everyone who responded- it was such a comfort to hear from so many people when I was feeling so alone. I take all your advice onboard. We have talked it over a bit more but it will take allot of time for this home to heal. I just hope it does. Thank you all again
