Learning your element

In no way am I saying anyone here is wrong. Merely I have a different perspective. Personally I believe that ones ¨element¨ is actually the element they need to work the most with. We are of all the elements, however born with one that provides us much learning. For instance, mine is water. as such, I am actually lacking in the qualities of the element of water or better put I have a problem with suppressing emotion. Even still water is the only element that provides me with peice of mind while simply listening to it and being around it. So in my oppinion if you wish to find your element you must know in what qualities you are lacking and you must know which element calms you and the element must match both descriptions.