Candle meditation

Agreed. Though sometimes when my thoughts are being stubbornly flighty, I have actually found it useful to just let it happen and follow along. Rathdr than trying to control my tboughts I switch focus to doing my best to be an active listener.

If I find my mind starting to think in circles, or rehashing old thoughts, where I am not sure how they are relevant any more, I start asking myself questions. I try to make a conversation out of it where I refuse to be satisfied with a simple answer. I dig at the thought until It leads me to something insightful about myself.

This is especially useful if you are tumbling around something stressful like a difficult upcoming choice, or if you are feeling like some situation has you 'spinning your wheels' without going anywhere. It's the mental equivalent of taking your concern, sitting it in a chair, and saying " Alright then, Whatever your problem we're gonna hash it out now."

Sometimes it goes nowhere but in circles. Other times it doesn't really resolve things... but it makes progress. But on occasion it can lead to one of those ah-hah!! moments of epiphany that puts the issue sudden clarity.

If your meditations keep getting waylaid by the same (or same kinds of) thoughts, there might be a reason they are there. Something about them needs your attention. Try seeing where they lead you.

this may seem a little off topic in the sense that i am trying to find out about candle magic in general and seeing as how you stated that you prefer candle magic i was wondering if you could guide me in the general direction as to where i might find some knowledge concerning this

I'm sorry to tell you, but know nothing. I'm just as clueless as you are. :) But if you want some advice, you can definitely check out the other aspects of this website. You are garunteed to find something. Happy searching :)