hey my name is schuyler and i'm jennifer's boyfriend... sort of... and i need some help with her. she's broken and afraid of the world. i need help showing her that there is good and not everything is going to disappoint her...
Alright, this isn't the normal topic in these particular forums, but I'll try to help.
Jen, sometimes when a guy likes a girl and gets worried about her he stops thinking clearly. This is especially common in guys who do not handle emergencies well(generally speaking of when they are unprepared) or otherwise panic easily. The proper way to do what he intended to do would be to create a new account just for him and create a thread that did not use your name. So, to simplify the many points I could make, I'm going to narrow this down to two potential ways that you could take this and the choice is your's. You can see this positively or negatively.
Positive: He was trying to help. Even if he went about it in a way that was less then the best option, he had your best interest at heart. That is much better then a guy who just says "get over it" and does nothing at all to help you. Even if this ends in failure, it is a sign that he does care about you. My advice, from this point of view, would be to forgive him, explain to him how this makes you feel and move on. It's hard, nowadays, to find people who have enough heart to care for someone else.
Negative: This could be taken as a betrayal. Without your permission he used your account, used your name, and shared information that you may have considered private information. There is still a bright side in saying that at least he did not try to claim that he was really you when he did this, he did explain that he is your boyfriend, but that does not change the fact that he did what he did not have the right to do.
Honestly I would consider this a very minor thing and thus would look at the positive side, but as mentioned I'll leave that up to you. I hope this helps.
The world seems to be full of heartless people in today's world and very little would be there to help you when things go wrong. And least he's trying to help which is more than a lot of people do nowadays in this world (or maybe it's just this city that's so cold xD). But as Rag states, it's on you to take it in a positive or negative way. I say go with positive cause when women go negative, the guy better know how to run. (I've had enough stab threats to know this by now lol) But on a more serious note, if you are mad, don't be so hard on him cause he was just trying to help.
I also agree with Rag and Fighter..I would look at it on a more postitive side but as stated it's up to you hun, noone can make that decision for you..
i just dont know what to do because firstly hes not my boyfriend and secondly i have a horrible past with him... thats why im torn... i mean i appreciate it and all but idk...
If he's not your boyfriend then why bother? He may care about you, but if you don't feel the same way for him or for any reason feel that it wouldn't work then trying to make it work would be a waste of time.
