A Complicated Situation..

Hi everyone. As you may have noticed, this is my last post on demonic possession. I have recently concluded a painful experience with a long distance boyfriend. I know this may seem better fit for a relationship therapist, but it highly involves Wicca. You see, Chris (not his real name) is a faihful Baltist, and me a Lutheran getting into Wicca. He became more and more concerned about me questioning my Christianity, so using his creative writing ability he put together a situation: he claimed to have been set under demonic possession. He created a new email to pretend to communicate as the entity. It became my mystery of five months, and as I watched my love for the Craft wither away, I convinced myself (with his advice along the way) to revert back to full Lutheran. Our relationship has been destroyed as a result of his repetitive lying for the last three years. This has been extremely painful, but I completely value and appreciate the care he had to act out for me. There is a fork in the road...he seems stressed enough to not want to try to work out the mess...but that may be because of other new situations going on in his life. This has been an incredibly horrifying experience, but at least he admitted his identity and intention. Now please let me ask: what should I do?

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Brutally honest here.....

You should probably stick with Christianity. Perhaps explore the mysticism within that belief structure. I think the fact that you not only ran back to the religion full force when your boyfriend tested you, but were so easily swayed into thinking a demon would make an e-mail account just to contact you tells me you know little of the occult and your conviction and faith within the religion you became interested in isn't very strong.

And there's nothing wrong with that at all. It's not for everyone.

As for the boyfriend, good intentions or not...He still lied. He still tricked you. What else would he lie about?

Honestly, I do know a lot about the occult, but I never studied demonology when he did everything, so yes, I was naive and felt ready to go insane. But now I know about negative entities. He tried just constantly talking to me many times before testing me, and I always rejected and never truly considered his words I still feel in love with him--only to a little extent--trust was extremely burnt. This has taught me lots of valuable information, but now as the relationship dies my Christianity is as well...

Also, I didn't just automatically assume the person behind the email was a demon. I blamed my boyfriend and practically interrogated him many times throughout the ride. I did plenty of research and I broke my thought process of the situation into two: Demonic Possession or Hoax. I specifically thought logically and tied many points together and I analyzed everything, I didn't just sit and scream out "Demon alert!" So, yes, I may be young and slightly naive but I always stuck to using logic to try to determine what was going on.

Either way your boyfriend lied to you and that's wrong. No matter the intention, good or bad, lying is lying. It's never right. If he truly cared (not saying he does or doesn't) he would have told the truth and not go to such extremities. No matter what's it's never right to lie. It only causes more troubles. Some times the truth hurts. That's life. But in the end truth is better.
As for your religions self-quarrels, listen to your heart. Your heart will know what is right. Whether Christian or Wiccan not every one will accept you for what you believe. But what matters is that you follow the religious path that you are happy with.

I would be so livid! Just reading this made my blood boil. I wouldn't hurt him, but oh, would there be hell to pay. I wouldn't want to patch that up. Just let him go. You don't need someone like that.

I do agree with Rashnux to a point. If you're looking outside of Christianity, then you're obviously soul searching, and you shouldn't stop that. But if you dropped Wiccan so quickly, than obviously you didn't strongly believe in it. I think you ran back to Lutheran not because you wanted to but because it was familiar and "safe". You are looking for a religion to "belong" in. Most people who drop their religion, do not go back. If they test out another religion and it doesn't work out, they simply have no religion until they find one they feel comfortable in.

Instead of looking for something to believe in, I suggest you look inward and ask yourself what YOUR beliefs are (not what other beliefs are) and then find a religion/path that fits those beliefs. You're someone who "needs" to "belong". And there is nothing wrong with that. But when you say you belong to something, you want it to be whole hearted and firmly trusted. You should not doubt your beliefs. Your beliefs should develop as you grow, but because they reside in your heart and not from a book or preacher, they are yours and no one can change such faith other than yourself.

People so often try to fit into religions when your religion should fit you.
And remember, you don't necessarily have to fit anywhere.

There is also the Hermetic philosophy which is a much more easily accepted option.

I believe that love can overcome any obstacle...I just don't know anymore. About anything..

Good point WhiteRav3n. This is one of the main reasons why some people such as myself are eclectic and solitary witches who create their own paths.I completely agree with what you say about how a book cannot teach you exactly what your beliefs are. The beliefs come from the self.

As for your situation SullenMoon, your boyfriend was likely trying to impose his own beliefs on you. If he understands your current situation and you feel it is right to forgive him, you should forgive him. However, ifyou feel that despite his best efforts, nothing will justify his actions, you shouldn't forgive him. Ultimately, it's your decision.

As for what religion/path you should choose, you should choose what feels right to you. In other words, what WhiteRav3n said.

Good luck and blessed be.

I need someone to talk to extremely bad right now. Please someone PM me :'(