I have a babysitting job I do in my house. One kid I sometimes have is Nicolas. I'm having a difficult time with him.
He doesn't listen very well. Yesterday I had him and he went into a room he's not alowed in. I told him to get out. He only went farther into the room. I told him again, and he said no. He keeps acting like this almost every day and it's starting to overwhelm me. I'm having a hard time with this. Any advice would be appreciated.
i see nothing wrong with locking him in the bathroom, he could play in the bathtub, or maybe the stuff in your medicine cabinet [i'm joking people]
i don't have kids, i don't like kids, but for some reason kids are drawn to me. [same with animals] you could try the silent game or something where they have to sit still and be quiet to win a prize. you could put on a movie, do arts and crafts, go for a walk, play outside, oh! make a blanket fort, still love those XD
magically... you could try zapping some of the kids energy psi vampire style... burn some lavender incense, it has a soothing effect.
in regards to the room that out of bounds, you could buy a lock for the door, or [what i'd do, but i'm not one for kids remember] tell him a scary story about the room. something like there's a ghost that's trapped in that room that eats little boys or something along those lines. just a thought, but that's a last option type thing, don't want him terrified and telling his parents. [not sure how old he is, i'm thinking 3-5 range]
Thanks. I wouldn't tell him a story like that, though. He would tell his parents and I may lose some business. He's only four. But he's hard to deal with. I may put on his favorite movie, though. That usually calms him down.
I have a four year old son. At this age, it's all about seeing how far they can push things. They're discovering their independence and that they can actually tell peopel no or not listen if they choose. My daughter was the same way.
I find when I explain consequences to him, he gets it. Basically tell him why he can't go in the room. For instance, my son is not allowed in the kitchen when I'm cooking because things are hot and he might get hurt. When I ask him not to something, he always asks why now. He wants a full explanation. Not 'because I said so'. If I give a good reason, like "it's dangerous" he usually listens. It doesn't always work, but it's worth a try.
Also depending on how his parents discipline him, 1-2-3 timeouts work like magic in our house. Count to three. If by the time you reach three he's not doing what you ask, he goes on a five minute time out (standing or sitting in the corner). If you do this every time, he'll eventually opt to listen instead of being stuck in a corner. Of course you should check with his parents first. Find out what works for them and if it's okay to do that.
Ok. I haven't thought about that yet. Sometimes I do reason without saying "because I said so" and even then he doesn't always listen. But usually that does it. Not always, though. Thanks for the advice though.
Often when I baby sat I would bring something over like my stone colection they usually kept them bust for 30 minutes. Try doing soemthing new may help.
