So I have yet to experience true love and I'm going on 27, yeah me . But when I was 17 I did meet someone nice. I slowly let this person in, I wouldn't say I loved them. But definitely was falling for them. They eventually, broke up with me because of long distance in a phone call. They also made me promise that if we broke up we would stay friends forever. I couldn't do it because of the hurt I experienced.
Fast forward ten years and I have and issue I am not sure that can be solved by magick. So I keep having re occurring dreams of this person. That effect my emotion upon waking up, these dreams even effect my mood all day. They are not bad dreams. Just use to hanging out, having fun,going out together,laughing,giving each other piggy packs, silly goofy funny dreams.
Then I awake and think UGGGGH! not again, and then think all my friends are married, engaged, have families, been in love, why am I alone, what did I do wrong. I want love but don't because I am a care giver to my mom and I no this will effect our relationship as well. I just really would love these dreams to stop. I am going to try a cord cutting but would love to hear alternative methods if any, if anyone here have had similar issues.
IM sick of these dreams, I don't even even think about this person at work,taking care of my mom,volunteering,helping my great aunt and grandma, doing photography,reading / writing. But they still creep up and effect me greatly.
I have yet to cast my first spell so if a spell is involved this will be my first. I have done my research and thought maybe this ought to be the right time. I don't want anything to hurt the other party of course I do not condone in that at all.
Dreams like these can be a form of dealing with things outside your home or perhaps since you held this person so dearly they are recurrent within your memories which (after being filtered with some reality and imagination) are sorta translated into dreams. The mind is very tricky like this. I would recommend trying to vent your emotions in a positive and efficient manner such as poetry or just sharing your thoughts with someone else.
Another way to help could be meditation or having a cup of tea before bed. Watch some tv to get your mind off of everything else before bed. Try finding a way to cope that best works for you. :)
The weird thing is like I said above, I never think about this person during the day. Thats why it bothers me. My days / weeks / months go find then out of no where BAM a dream about it. If I write about this an my feelings, I have a fear it will cause more dreams. Same as meditation. If I meditate on the issue it will arise with more happy dreams I wish not to bear. Maybe you mean to not meditate about the person but meditate about how everything in the past is already set in stone. That I cannot change this and there is no future with this person. But see I already know this as well. It bothers me not that I have no future with them at all. It bothers me that these happy go lucky good memories dreams of us having fun, are still happening an I just want to move on. Do you have any suggestions on what I should be meditating about?
You should meditate on letting go. Not necessarily of them, but of fear. Your fear is what holds you back from truly being free from the dilema. Fear not that the expressing/venting of emotions or thoughts will cause more, but consider them as causing less because you are no longer having to hold them in. If a dam that holds back foul water refuses to attempt to release it then foul water is all it'll ever hold.
Honestly, reading through this thread, I couldn't help but think that maybe the universe is trying to tell you something. Even if you think u have no romantic future with this person, have you tried reaching out them? Maybe they have an important message to give to you, or they are a soulmate and your subconscious is telling you that they are supposed to be in your life? Listen to your soul.
It didnt' post the 2nd half of my message for some reason... But I had a recurring dream about a friend before, and they didnt stop until I started hanging out with the person again. And it was really weird, because after we started hanging out again, I had a dream telling me that the recurring dreams about them would stop, lol :)
The mind takes memories to create dreams because it's remembering, this memory of that person may be a vivid memory and easy to access. You might try finding a way to get a more memorable and vivid memory of a better thing to replace it. You shouldn't tamper with the mind, especially you own.
