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When bad things start to happen in life, it is easy to put the blame and responsibility on things outside of yourself. Too see yourself as a victim. It is a path of least resistance, it means you can avoid change, or avoid looking at yourself with a reflective awareness. After-all, how can you have done wrong if something else is to blame?
Not to make you feel put on or belittled, mind you. Sometimes it is circumstance. Sometimes it is luck. And sometimes it is consequences of choices. Rather, this is a way to return power to yourself. After all, a victim has no power. No ability to make change. Taking ownership and beginning with some Self-awareness brings that power back.
Gaining weight isn't unusual, especially during puberty. Eating changes, food cravings change. Hormones and attitudes make the body crave energy, sugars, sweet and starchy things to fuel activity and growth. Moods become more prone to rapid change with adrenaline and testosterone and even estrogen hitting the system harder. It takes conscious observation and effort to learn your moods all over again, and exercise willful temperance to form new habits. Even study and practice to learn healthy outlets that work well for you
(not to mention a good bit of trial and error sometimes.)
I would not say you are cursed, those come with specific feelings of oppression and negativity. A presence of specifically external malevolance or pressure. Not just bad luck but a tangible counteracting force. But I would agree that you are in a series of transitions in life that are presenting a lot of challenges you are not used to. I would recommend finding people you can talk to, whi can give some advice and help you find some tools and practices to be more self observant as time goes on. To regain a sense of self and a Centerpoint of personal authority. Maybe look in to local support groups, a good and accredited psychologist, or even a local chapter of people that share in your personal religion/faith. Otherwise read books. As many as you can get your hands on. Talk to people. Start with information on meditation, reaching calm, and self reflection. That would be a good place to begin.
My inbox is always open, as are those of others on the site I am sure. (Though I can sometimes take a while to respond) I can try to come up with some specific ideas for you, or put together a list of some of my favorite books to try and get/read.
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