i dont want to leave my wife.. so this is a problem with me and my wife . we both married before 2 months on 25 may ,, but suddenly after that my mother denied to accept her i dont now why my mother doing this and my sister too. my wife is so nice she always try to be polite my mother also hurt her when we got married. my wife is so god but my mother dont accept her.. you can understand the feeling of a girl who is married and still sitting in her mother home. i want my wife over here in my home with my mother,, all i need is that my mother will accept her. as soon as possible.. dear i only want mainly my mother will accept her and then my sister,, my wife is so cooperation and polite even she also can live in a economy class, i want that my mom will accept her by deep heart and allow us to do ceremony now a days i am very depressed
Re: i am in big problem By: WhiteRav3n / Knowledgeable
Post # 3 Jul 29, 2012
Love is more important than money. Why don't you take a stand and live with your wife and her mother and help support them? Or live on your own with your wife if you are able.
Sometimes it takes action, not just words, to make someone realize what damage they are doing by their words and actions.
Although magick can sway emotions, it cannot change someone's mind completely if they have their mind made up. If your mother "wills" that your wife not be apart of her family with all of her heart, trying to change that would be a battle of wills, and could be psychologically damaging. You can try a sweetening spell, but I honestly doubt it would do any good because of how determined your family is against this.
It sounds like they are having trouble letting you go. I think it a beter idea for you to leave the issue and not bring your wife into it. What ever there reason may be, your wife could be emotionally damaged by it. Think of how you would feel if you were brought into a situation like that.
I would not use a spell, not only as it would likely not work well, but as your wife already knows they don't like her for some reason. Some spells like that are also short lived which means you could really where your self out doing it all the time. There will to hate her will come back.
maybe you can stay with her.
I wish you the best of luck.
Re: i am in big problem By: Lark Moderator / Adept
Post # 5 Jul 30, 2012
If you're old enough and mature enough to be married then you are also old enough to stand by the choices you've made. Your mother may never like any girl you want to marry. Some mothers try to cling to their children long after their children are adults. If you're married it's time to stand up for yourself, get a job, move out of your mother's house and start your life with your wife. This doesn't take magic, it just takes a bit of gumption on your part.
And, tragically, this situation is not uncommon. And get out of it is not so simple. Therefore, it makes more sense not to bring the situation to such passions, and try to solve the problem at the beginning of the conflict. Do not try to run away from problems. She - like a snowball - will only grow if it is not addressed.
your mother has a husband?
And, if it stands alone, the problem may worsen even more, because she has no personal life, and the whole meaning of life is the son and the house. Before you she was hostess, and everything was done by her and the way she wanted. Son was obedient and loving. And suddenly there is "this ... Believe me - the reason is not in you. So will any wife. And after the birth of his grandson the problem of jealousy can manifest itself in a different plane: in-law, which has generally not able to give birth to an unconscious attempt to take on the role of mother and take the initiative in raising the child.
Most conflicts occur because there is no clear idea of where to draw the line between the role of MOTHER
and the role of wife. . Mother-in-conflict, and not realizing that the married son is responsible for the welfare of his wife and children, but is not responsible for the welfare of the parent family. So to help parents must be proportionate to the younger generation capabilities and agreed in his own family. The phrase from the Bible (in today's society is not only men but women) "... Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and cleave to his wife: and they shall become one flesh ..." says the husband and wife are one flesh FAMILY that they themselves are jointly responsible for the quality of family life, for income and consumption for the upbringing of children.
I advice I can give to your wife:
let her mother-in-my mother calls
it should be praising her as a mistress, her culinary skills. If your mother a good cook let your wife take her recipes, or ask her to teach cooking, washing, ironing. grow flowers. your mom will love it.
and yet, let her make her nice gift. Your mom is important to feel needed, so let your wife asks her for help. This will make it a pleasant thy mother.
and the best thing is if your wife talk to your mom "heart to heart." This is a chance for them to communicate with each other to their own views on many important things.
dear but i want to live with my mom too my only wish is that my mother will accept my wife and my marriage and will not abuse her and her family all the negativity will get finish