i need a spell for my son and i to re connect, basically he is hostile to me, his father has turned him against me and is being the dad he has always wanted now. i have been trying to get a divorce for over a year now and you have always heard stories about the woman trying to take the kid/kids away for the father and taking him for all he has, well that is my situation, except reversed. i need a spell for reconcilliation,communication, visitation with my son.
It is not the other man who has turned your son against you, it is your sons choice to act as he is. You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself.
As I am not fully aware of the situation and your history, I am taking a wild guess that you are his biological father who seperated from his mother. If this is so then your son may be angry at you for having 'deserted' him and his mother. If you are not the biological father and you are the step-parent or something of the sort, he may be mad at you for intruding on his life prior to your being a part of it. He may feel that you are tearing his family apart in either situation.
Try talking to him, and letting him know of your feelings towards the situation. Perhaps some group therapy could be beneficial.
Well, at any rate my wild guess(es) still apply - but of course in the role of the mother instead of father. And as I have said, it is not the father who can turn him against you, it is him. He made the choice to feel the way he does towards you, act the way he does. He has complete control over his thoughts and emotions and actions.
Perhaps confront him (your son) and ask him what you did to have him feel this way, ask him what you can do to make reconcile the situation. Be patient and just listen to him, because that is what is he going to want. If he won't allow a confrontation then so be it, he will talk to you at some point in time. Be sure to let him know how his actions are affecting you. You are his mother and somewhere deep down he has a love for you!
he wont speak to me anymore, he went 131 days without contact with me and then it took me 3 months to get us into counseling then he just lied and acted hostile with me and i had to stop the counseling because he was so abusive to me, my ex has a really hateful lawyer and slips thru all the loop holes my son claims i abandoned him and he knows this is totally untrue, his father has violated every child guideline there is , not allowing me to participate in school, sports, hostile to pick him up, not allowing him to speak with me or any one in my family ect. my son was always closer to me and my family, i home schooled him, and was active in his sport.....i lived everyday for my son since the day he was born...and stayed with my ex because of my child , he is 14 now , i know it was wrong to stay but i made that decision 10 years ago and now i guess i am paying for it because i just couldnt stay in the marriage any longer, i had to be happy....but my ex has always told me if i left he would take our son, bankrupt me and turn him against me, and he has, i thought my son would see thru this but his father is being super dad and he is eating it up
The hardest part of where you are right now is to not give up, take this from a mom who was given up on by both of her parents as a child and is still emotionally traumatized by the events that transpired. A child can make his own choices, and they can be influenced by those around him, but he is still a child. I went through a similar scenario when I divorced my children's father after 11 years. My son was nearly turned against me, but as you state with your situation, my son was closer to me than to his father. He had to experience his father for himself and after a while learned that his father couldn't keep up the superstar act, at which point he wanted his mom back and became deeply sorrowful for the way he had treated mom. The best splendor this is to believe that perseverance will bring your son's connection with you back to his realization. Put a picture of him near the coffee pot or on the fridge, somewhere you find yourself frequently; each time you see that pic, speak to it-mom loves you more than you'll ever know, and someday soon you will remember that. The key is to believe what you say to his picture. This will help you by connecting positive energy to what you want, to reconnect with your son. Best wishes.
