Hi, I want someone to give me advice, preferably someone with more experience, but i’ll take every advice. My mom is really full of negative energy and she addmited that herself. She is also narcissistic. I mean she buys me things that I need and want, but she keeps insulting me and always compares me with her and how I am bad she is good, manipulation is her weapon, you know the drill. I am wondering if I can use simple binding spell to keep her influence away from me because when she lashes out on me that negative energy is now in me and I don’t want that. And mother and daughter is a very strong bond so I don’t think that should be a problem
Well, you could do that. But, wouldn't it be better for both you and her to do magical work to help her release all that negativity and narcissism? Just a suggestion.
I have a question. It isn't really meant to have a specific answer but maybe it will stir up some helpful thoughts.
Why are you holding on to her energies?
Just as your energies are yours and yours alone, the same is true for her. Positive or negative, her energies and attitudes are her responsibility. Not yours. Why keep what doesn't belong to you?
That said, there are ways you can find a sense of gratefulness that helps in letting go of the ill actions of others. It starts by tecognizing them as learning opportunities. Chances to see the negative actions, and gain personal experiences on how those actions affect others. You can use it to learn the ways not to be, and to turn her intolerances into your compassions. It's a long and constant process, true. And it can also be draining, and tryinf, and frustrating to no end. But as you look backwards in life you will see how you had opportunities to turn these lessons into positive avenues of your own personal growth.
Perhaps instead of a binding for your mother, try searching out inspiration and confidence for yourself. Allow yourself to become stronger rather than trying to pit yourself against another. Instead of focusing on control of her, focus on making yourself independany and confident. Eventually you will reach a point when you leave home and can forge your own way. As you come up on that time, ask yourself what it is you want to be carrying with yourself.
Thank you for your time and information but she keeps yelling and yelling and it’s always my fault and she is always the victim. She also physically abused me. Everytime she gets back from work she first talked to my stepfather and she gets angry at him and then to my little sister and since I am the last she gets angry with me for some small reason and then she unleashes all the stress and anger on me and I have been living that my whole life so do you think that binding spell is a good idea
There is a chance that it might help, but it is rarely so simple. As an example, her yelling and anger seems to be an outlet she depends on for her own frustrations. Whatever those frustrations are from, without giving another (hopefully better) method of coping and then stoppering off the tool she does know. . As negative and destructive as it is, it is a method of emotional relief for her and without relief things build up. It could make her find a worse method instead like outright violence.
It is like finding a leaky pop bottle in a paint shaker. It shakes, it sputters and fizzes, and makes a mess. So to fix the problem you teplace the cap with a solid cork. ... But you don't take the bottle out of the shaker. So it still shakes, but thr bubbles have nowhere to go until the pressure builds up so much the cork explodes out in some random direction. Or, the bottle itself bursts apart.
Unfortunately there are no easy answers to this problem. But I do understand yourfrustration (and likely desperation). I have had to deal with similar things in my own family and it made for some really challenging times. More than anything the one desire becomes wishing they could just see what they were doing to themselves... and that there are other, better choices to manage or even let go of their own negativity. But unless she learns for herself that she is the one chiefly responsible for her angers and frustrations, change won't occur in any meaningful way.
The worst of it is that just sitting her down and -telling- her these things is just as likely to set her off as it is to help her come to a realization. The first instinct people have when confronted with their own failings/challenges is to feel cornered or attacked so they block, defend, and/or attack back.
The best I could suggest would be to do a ritual (or even prayer) for her to receive inspirations to gain understanding of what she is doing, and to be exposed to people, books, and synchronicities that show her there is a better way of going about things.
If there is a chance of managing it, a family intervention to try and convince her to enter some sort of counselling for anger management might also help. Though that would take as many people as you could get, and probably multiple videos of her during the peaks of her anger to show her what she is doing. So she can see it for herself with no room for excuses or dismissal.
Thank you for your advice. I take spells very seriously, so I will consider all options and rethink what is the best idea for both me and my mother, although binding seems to be least dangerous one or a spell with the least consenquences
I suggest that you work to strengthen your personal wards to protect yourself against her corrosive energy. It makes a world of difference and will make you feel so much stronger. It is important that you spend time and magic on yourself. Not on her. I hope this gets better for you
