Love

So -- I know I sound like a generic teenager please hold on -- I'm currently in a situation where I am not having a chance to meet others very often (once a week) and I feel like I must find love but I do not know how to find someone to love. Is there a way that I could try to figure out how to find someone for love? Someone that I am actually in love with not just someone who wants to use me? Or is that not possible?

Sorry if this isn't General Info.

Thanks!

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I would recommend against being in such a rush to find someone to love and Focus on yourself instead. Maybe spend some time reflecting on where this need to find someone to love comes from. Ask yourself questions such as: "Do I not love myself?" "Do I feel unworthy of another's love?" "Is there something missing in my life that I'm trying to compensate for by being in a relationship?" "What qualities am I looking for in a partner?"

Also, there are indeed a lot of people out there who will pretend to love you only to use you once they have you, and the risk of this is magnified when dealing with people online. You're also much more vulnerable as a teenager, online or not. Many teenagers aren't sure about what they really want yet. They may think so, but hormones are raging and the brain hasn't finished maturing quite yet. This goes for you as well as any potential partners in your age range.

Lastly, keep in mind that relationships aren't always perfect. People don't always meet "the one" and live happily ever after. Sometimes it takes a lot of tries before finding the right person, and even then it's an ongoing process to make sure things stay stable. Spells to attract love into your life can be used, but magic doesn't always make everything better. Sometimes it can make things worse.

Whatever you end up doing, please be careful.

I will. I've done a lot of introspection and I either want love or a strong parental/sibling figure. (Can't figure out which one I need more.) I know what wil go horribly for me and i'm trying to avoid that. sorry.

It sounds to me like you really just want some sort of close human connection, which I understand since you seem to be rather isolated. maybe just focus on that to start with instead of trying to find someone to fill a specific role. Someone you connect with may eventually fall into one of those at some point after spending some time with them. After all, love often starts with friendship.

I hate making friends but that's lovely advice (no pun intended)! I will try!