Re: misunderstanding a spell By: H2OfanRikki / Novice
Post # 2 Jun 13, 2016
Get over them, simple as.
The first spell may not have brought you together, it could well have happen as a complete coincidence. If you have attempted to salvage the relationship with talking, and actions before trying spells and none of this has helped, then it is clearly not meant to be.
Often after a relationship ends we think of the other person with rose tinted glasses, nothing they did was bad or wrong, they were the most perfect human being on earth; when in reality, if a relationship has ended, then they probably weren't the perfect person for you.
There will be other people who can fill your life with more joy than this person ever did, but even so, nothing will get this person out of your mind bar time and patience, just because you miss them, doesn't mean that you are right together.
As with any other person who comes into our lives, they dont only bring their company, but a lesson to be learned about ourselves. Reflect on the problems that were between the two of you, why did it end? Why did you go to such extremes to keep the relationship? Surely there's a thing or two that was meant for you to learn. An experience for you to grow from.
I still have a few old loves i find myself missing from time to time, but i know we werent meant to be. Therefor i take my lessons learned and go on, careful to not get myself in a similar situation. As should you.
Re: misunderstanding a spell By: Nekoshema / Novice
Post # 5 Jun 13, 2016
life is full of lessons. you cast a spell because you wanted someone to love you, the universe brought you a compatible match to fill the void. in the moment things were great, but life isn't always sunshine and rainbows. i'm not saying the relationship was doomed, but perhaps it was always flawed and that's why it ended. obsessing and forcing the two of you back together in a desperate attempt isn't healthy or right. reflect on the relationship, both the good and the bad and see what you learned from it. it hurts but let this person go, if they're meant to be with you, they will return one day, leave it up to fate.
perhaps the reason the relationship didn't work is because you weren't ready. perhaps you have insecurities or don't love and accept yourself, relying on others for love can be toxic, and many times the other person can't do it. it's hard to say exactly, best to reflect and be honest with yourself [meditation and journaling might help you]
Re: misunderstanding a spell By: Lark Moderator / Adept
Post # 6 Jun 15, 2016
Something that it is important to understand about love spells is that they only create the possibility of love. They do not create a love that will last forever. Once you have drawn someone to you that you think you love you must then both do the hard work that it takes to make a relationship work through good times and bad. What you are saying in your post sounds as though you have relied on the spells to make love continue and didn't do the things that keeps people loving each other. You might want to think on the lessons you have learned during this last failed relationship and try to figure out what you weren't doing, or perhaps were doing, that contributed to the other person leaving you.
I seriously cannot get over them, its been over two years and about 2-3 times a week I have these crying episodes over them. I even tried doing healing spells for myself, but nothing seems to work. Whats wrong with me? D:
Re: misunderstanding a spell By: H2OfanRikki / Novice
Post # 8 Jun 17, 2016
There is nothing wrong with you, it is completely normal to feel upset about losing someone, but if this starts to effect your life, as I think it is, then you may want to think about seeing someone to talk about it.
Even just talking about your situation can help you move past this and get back to your usual self.
Talk to a counsellor about it. Being upset about it for that long most likely means that the breakup caused some sort of mental issue, most likely depression or dysthymia.
Re: misunderstanding a spell By: Nekoshema / Novice
Post # 11 Jun 29, 2016
yea, if you're still pining and wallowing after 3 years as if you broke up last week, i would seek professional help as you have spiralled into a dark place.a counsellor can help you work through this but [unlike people online] can diagnose if you have any mental issues which need addressing [and before you think we're calling you crazy, i have struggled with anxiety and depression, so i know the pain. professionals can help wonders] you can [and should] try working through accepting and releasing the past, but you will probably need someone beside you for emotional support.
regarding your healing spell you cast. healing spells are great, but with all spells they don't instantly 'cure light wounds' and poof you're fine. the healing spell might of took the pain away for a day, but in that window you should work towards further healing. you need to put effort in to achieve the goal of whatever spell you cast [i think the only exception is cleansing and protection as they are energy workings and do not achieve physical results] you can turn your healing process into a spiritual one [write a letter to your ex and burn it, releasing your pain, clean out all things that remind you of him and get rid of it, journal, meditate, go on walks, feel your feelings, accept, and release] it's a long process, and while it isn't easy, there's less pain down the healing path than the one you're on now.
i also wish to reccomend TinyBuddha.com to you, it helped me through my darkest times, you might find some inspiration on their site
