To heal a person from-

Grieving is a natural process that we all go through when we have suffered a loss. It is something that we need to do in order to move on. While it is painful to watch someone you care about being sad, they need to do this as a form of healing. It's not a good idea to shortcut the process or the person will never heal.

Instead of a spell, could you do something mundane to help this person? Normally I'd suggest doing things to help distract them for a bit such as go out for lunch or going shopping or to a movie; but Covid makes it hard. What did you do with this person before they were grieving? If any of what you did then is still possible to do now that might be a start.

I don't really understand why people say "Don't use magick as a first-resort". I mean, magick's a skill like any other, why can't we use that skill to help us? Ultimately, the gods are much more powerful than us. If they know that the spell won't help or could potentially harm you, they'll probably try to stop the spell from working. And since the Gods and Goddesses are much more powerful, your spell will likely fizzle out. I don't mean any offense, but why do people say to not use magick as a first-resort?

There are three sayings I like to use to explain it... though they all mean very similar things.

"One may have their head in the clouds, as long as they keep their feet on the ground."

"Place one foot in the ocean, but keep the other on land."

And finally,

"Fetch wood, carry water.
Gain enlightenment.
Fetch wood, carry water."

The point of all of these axioms is that spiritual practice is not a replacement for physical care and needs. Some things don't have shortcuts or ways to side-step.

Grieving is an emotional process that requires time, processing, and support in coping. If one wants to help a friends then Instead of working a spell, give them a hug and be there to talk. (And if it comes to it, a kick in the pants to get out of a repeating cycle.)

Besides, the energy of genuine care and time is a magic all on its own. And the sharing of a few wise words and a timely reminder that one is not alone has more direct healing power than hiding away in your sacred space and making wobbly hand-waves.

In the end, it isn't about saying 'don't use magic'. It is about saying 'there is more to life than magic. Don't neglect the proper tools for the job."

@Spirit76
Thanks for explaining :D

I've been a shoulder to cry on and have gotten her ice cream (Her favorite) but she seems to not be lightening up. I fear that she might go down farther than before. She refuses to do anything so, I really wanted to try and help.

She may just need time. When did her grieving start? People go through phases in the grieving process until they reach a resolution where it is no longer as painful. If her loss happened recently it may take weeks or months for her to work through this. Best thing right now is to just be there for her whenever she reaches out to you. She might not be ready to move on quite yet and one or two actions on your part isn't going to make her sadness go away quite yet.

If you could give us a bit more information we might be able to help more.

Around 3-4 months. Her dad committed suicide, and it really affected her greatly. I've offered to be there no matter what.

I don't know what loosing a father feels like as I never had one in my life, but I know what loosing a parental figure feels like. I have been there as much as i could be considered I have work and other things as well.

There are many ways to heal emotionally depressed people .
My suggestions :-
Give her time .
As time is the greatest healer .
Her wounds will eventually vanish overtime and she will be okay .
Let her cry and express her grief .
As tears come out,the grief goes away.
Don't stop her from grieving . If she keeps all her pain inside her and hides all her feelings , she will become susceptible to depression .
I suggest you , give her a shoulder to cry .
If her condition is too serious ,only then i recommend healing music . Positive vibes can be good for healing and easing depression and grief. They don't heal actually but they stir a hope in someone and then the person gets healed himself/herself.
Here is the link to a music i use to heal people :-
https://youtu.be/Leob7Fv1ibM
On listening this she may feel uneasy at first but will be fine after some time.
Hope this helps you and her :)
Blessed be!

I will also suggest that if her grief is so severe that it is having a significant impact on her ability to move on with the process of living; such as her not being able to go to work because she finds she can't leave the house; she may need to seek a professional grief counselor to work through it.

Losing a parent is really hard, especially if she was really close to her Dad, but as others have said, time does heal the worst of the pain.

I remember coming across a youtube video once upon a time, which explained grief/trauma and healing very well. I really wish I had bookmarked it at the time, because I can no longer find the thing.

I can still remember the basic idea however. This won't be anything near word for word but hopefully I can get the overall idea across.

Imagine yourself as a circle of light. This light is the collection of your experiences in life. As you age, gaining your daily experiences both big and small, that circle grows slowly larger.

A sudden trauma, like death, casts a big shadow onto that circle. It darkens the light, blocking it from shining over a circle of its own. Now if you are young, or if you have had relatively fewer experiences of life, yourcircle of light is naturally smaller. So, one of these shadows can feel dauntingly large leaving only a sliver of light left if any at all... while much older, more experienced people might have a larger circle fed by many other moments and memories. Enough that this shadow, though still large, is not so overwhelming. Not because the shadow is smaller but because the light is bigger. The more experienced person has tools to draw on. Happy memories to lean on. Things that are light and supporting that surround the shadow and make it feel smaller in comparison.

But for the younger, smaller circle there might not be so much light left. Leaving few positive things that can be light outside of the shadow. Some so overwhelmed that they need to share in the light of another. They need to be reminded of good memories and moral, uplifting lessons. They rely on another light being added to their own. It doesn't shine over/override the shadow, but it does expand their light so it can shine out around it and be seen.

Also, the shadow does not shrink. It is there, and unless there is an equally powerful upliftment then it will remain. Trauma is still trauma. Grief is still grief. But. The critical thing to understand is that while this shadow might not change, the light does. Time does not close the shadow, it expands the light. New Joy's, new loves, new learnings. With time, as the light grows the shadow has less influence. The light becomes too large for it to cover. And, eventually, the shadow that felt once overwhelming becomes small by comparison.

The take-away from this analogy is that no one can remove the grief and sadness of another person. What you -can- do, is help the person gain light, until it grows beyond the reach of the shadow cast over it.

The weight we carry in life does not get lighter. But we do grow stronger.