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Re: Life not going as planned
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Post # 11
You can also include volunteer time if it was at a place where it's relevant; such as volunteering for a resale center when going into retail.
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Re: Life not going as planned
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Post # 12
it sounds to me like you might be well served by going to a local employment agency and asking them to help you with your resume. Those damn little pieces of paper are a bugger to get right and even just having a second set of eyes and some fresh ways of trying to sell yourself is all it takes.

it might also be a matter of you being too specific on the jobs you are going after. it is always a wonderful idea to train for a field, and get in immediately to a specific position. but you need to expect to enter in on the ground floor. Or, in some places even by digging your way up from the basement. Even if you can just get into a company that works in the same field as you hare schooling for will give you a foot in the door to start working on internal applications and transfers to get to the department you want.

Also, having six years of education is not a small thing. and having courses in several different fields might feel like wasted time at the moment, but there are some interesting things going on these days. There was a person who put out a set of three videos called shift happens, and they are pretty awesome.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wT2D-6-7kSk

bottom line, if the pattern of action isn't working, look into ways you can change it. Most colleges have alumni services available. make use of them. Check your school alumni forums and newsgroups as well- a lot of people like to start their own ventures once they finish their education, and they are more likely to hire on people they know first, and then people who come from the same school and a similar graduating year. It instills an implicit common ground. And look for new ways that those multiple courses can be of a benefit even to fields where they weren't meant for.

For example, the bulk of my post-secondary education was focused on social sciences. Philosophy, psychology, sociology, new-media (a mash of advertising, web development, computer programming, etc. ... I found out I am not so patient with programming.) When i found myself becoming a security officer I thought at first that my education turned out to be a gross waste of time and money. but then it clicked that my job entirely revolved around dealing with people, understanding their behaviors, observing and risk assessing, getting compliance of individuals and crowds, crisis management in a wide variety of situations, spatial awareness, and managing it all while being professional, centered, focused, and on that razor balance of friendliness and authority. In the end, all of my 'people studying' give me gigantic advantage, and I found new ways of applying that knowledge just about every day.

I think part of what is holding you back is a developed idea of 'train these skills to get this reward.' and life these days is unfortunately in the bad habit of not working in straight lines any more. Sit down in your spare time and write a list of all of the different things you have learned about. Have some friends help you, or as mentioned a career counselor or other alumni service. bounce ideas and hunt for the little skills that you might not see right away. Dig into the nooks and crannies of your education and also your experiences.

Then take each one, one at a time, and explore as many different ways you can apply it to random things. Take the one idea and put it to a random job, task, or real life problem and explore how you can make it apply. I guarantee you will surprise the hell out of yourself.

Next thing to try is being similarly reflective on yourself and what it is you want to do. I don't mean by way of specific careers, jobs, tasks, hobbies, etc. I mean the boiled down, strained through, simmered down core of what you want from yourself when you walk out the door. Something non-specific but an idea that really makes you feel happy and valuable when you are able to achieve it. Heh, in the words of your average b-movie extra, ask "What is my motivation?"

For me, I boiled my own motivation down to "I like to help people." For you it might be different. it might be 'I like to learn new things." or "i like to conquer puzzles." or "I like to cook." ... whatever it is, write it down at the very top margin, in gigantic bold letters, at the top of your list of skills. then start comparing and see how those skills can be made to apply.

At the very least, this (rather lengthy) exercise might help you in remembering how much value your skills actually have, and it might trigger inspiration or reveal a direction to try that you haven't thought of. Or, at the very least, it gives you a toolbox of key words and phrases you can use later in building a resume that is tailored specifically for the exact job you want, and makes you leap off the page, grab them by the collar, and slap them around until they submit to your awesomeness. ^_^
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Re: Life not going as planned
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Post # 13
oh, so you want/need a job, but you've got a lot of negative energy built up over the years. here's what you do, cleanse your space [perhaps redecorate, maybe with some energy flow in mind, but more importantly to give things fresh look] from there use your space efficiently. if it's an office, make sure you put the intention in that 'this is for work, not play' [say a chant, or hang a mantra up that states this fact] this way the energy of that room will be focused with 'business' in mind.

from there i would fix up your resume/cover letter to perfection [check out job centers for help] next i would cast a job spell so you have told the universe to open the doors for you, and send off your resumes. [you might also consider a job chant before you begin your day of passing out resumes, calling places, and researching]

i know how discouraging it can be and sometimes you need to take a 'right now' job while you look for your forever job, but try not to get too low, as this can effect the energy around you. i'm not saying it's what keeps you from finding work, but if you feel you need to clear out the energy then you should try to stay in the light and not let negative energy stagnate in your space for your own health. good luck to you.
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