Indeed. After Zuko lost his anger, he lost his firebending powers. That is, until he and Aang took that lifechanging field trip to see the dragons.
The solution is obvious, then: find some dragons!
No? Okay, well, in the Alchemical tradition I follow, what you feel is the "lead" of the process, the base metal. My source does concede that without base matter, then many people lose their motivation, and while it's not necessarily "weak" it is...static. Like, they sit there and do nothing but Be Enlightened. So, as long as we want to function in society, we're always going to need our shadows.
Your instincts are the best guide for whatever emotional transformation you're going to have. I carried around an all-consuming wrath, actually, for the past three years. I've let it go and transformed it. I'm not weak. This could only have happened if my emotional body and my psyche had cooked up something else to replace that wrath. That's not a conscious decision.
So, I say just roll with it. When you're ready to start blessing and healing, when you're meant to, then it'll happen. It's not a conscious decision, it's a subconscious process. By the way you sound attached to your anger, it's going to take a long, long while and a lot of difficulty. That's just so.
Re: Hate and magic By: Oldor
Post # 23 Sep 28, 2014
yes I a attached to my anger because something my dad told me when I was a kid when I was being bullied "bully or be bullied" if you are not mean to others other will be mean to you.
Re: Hate and magic By: Personified / Knowledgeable
Post # 24 Sep 28, 2014
I lived a very angry, hateful life. I did so because, like you, I thought that if I came across that way- other people would leave me alone and view me as strong. All it ever did, in the end, was make me an unhappy person- and people still bothered me. Now, today, I choose to live as a very happy, positive person. It's made me life much easier to deal with. People still bother me, but I choose not to let it effect me as a person. And this is what you must do as well. I know it can seem tough, but it's possible and you'll feel much better.
Your magic may improve as well. If your bombarding yourself with all this negativity, it may be hard for you to appropriately get in the right state of mind to do a lot of workings that require more intent and focus. Take some time aside to meditate and try to clear yourself of that negativity before you start doing any kind of magical working.
Also, if you're interested, some practices such as berserkergangr utelizse anger and hate as a means of channeling energy- most effectively- and removing it from yourself. This may be a practice you should consider looking into. I've used it for many years now and it's done wonders in my path.
sorry to hear that. anger isn't something that has ruled my being. i have been angry, but everyone has, i'm actually a really negative person. i have seen how negativity can effect me [like someone will say something and i keep repeating it in my head until everyone who i see is a horrible person who looks down on me when really it was one bitter person i saw early that day] this isn't healthy, [still] i don't like most people, but over the years i don't let them bother me anymore. i am sick of what it does to me, and i don't like the person i became about 5 years ago as a result of being so negative and defensive. i am not all smiles and sunshine all the time, but i know what matters, what i like, and what i care about. if something doesn't fall into those categories, i ignore or forget. its not easy, but when you are ready, you should try to accept and let go. people come and go, they are far more absorbed with who they are than who you are. sometimes it is wise to push back, but learn when and don't let it consume you, its an empty life.
because something my dad told me when I was a kid when I was being bullied "bully or be bullied" if you are not mean to others other will be mean to you
That isn't true. People will be mean to you whether you're mean right back at them or not!
Re: Hate and magic By: Oldor
Post # 27 Sep 28, 2014
when I started being mean to others that's when my dad started to be prowed and other were not mean to me anymore
It's beginning to sound to me as though you don't wish to become less angry or hateful. You actually like being mean and hurting others through your magic. And you believe that being hateful gains you what you want out of life so you aren't going to make any effort to change yourself.
If you aren't willing to see what others are telling you, that being mean and hateful is neither necessary or worthwhile, then there is nothing we can do to help you out. Everytime someone has tried to help you out you have a reason why you can't or won't follow that advice. So continuing this thread seems rather pointless.
Or it could be that you are simply engaging in trollish behavior.
