That's just it, its been two years of it. That's why I feel that it may be time to intervene in a more...or possibly less direct manner. I'd like to think that she'd break it off before something happened, but I'm not entirely certain and I just want to see her happy again.
Another thing that makes me feel that I may be selfish in acting in such a way is because I want to be the one to make her happy again.
She's always so sad now. And if she dated someone else, there's no garuntee that she'd be happy. While I have no garuntee that she'd be happy with me, I have a good feeling about it because whenever we're together (and her boyfriend isn't there or texting her) she seems happier than usual.
Re: I need a good breakup spe By: sunshinerain / Beginner
Post # 6 Dec 31, 2014
yeah... abusive relationships are hard to end. i didn't end it for well too long...
if you think its time to stop it... do a protection spell,or binding spell... then tell her how you feel... break up spell... might not be necessary... i cant believe im saying this but maybe you need to either fix him (get to the core of his abuse and try fixing it... magickk or not.) or make him fall in love with someone else... i highly suggest the first... i dont think passing him off is wise because it almost hurts everyone- your friend loses her boyfriend
this new girl becomes abused
and your guilt.
maybe both if you have to. your call. follow your insticts
I think I've found a good one on my own,one that hurts him for the pain he's caused her, and her...well, none. It gets her a better shot of ending it and I get my chance at making her happy. It is apparently regarded as a working spell, as long as my intentions are pure.
But if even part of my goal is to hurt him, is it pure?
If I'm doing this partly for my own gain, is it selfish?
Or because my main reason is for her happiness, are the other two canceled out?
The prior two are hardly even my intentions, almost just benefits of the spell that work in my favor.
But back to your point of causing him anger. I'm a fairly well off man when it comes to muscle mass, beyond that I'm a former boxer and can easily hold my own in a physical fight.
He on the other hand has no knowledge of magick, no prowess in physical altercations, and is low on muscle mass. Needless to say, I can take him hands down.
Should the spell fail, I have more than one backup plan that have worked in the past, with less desirable outcomes than this particular spell that I've found.
If the spell should work, she would be repulsed enough to leave, and then my second half of my plan could go to work. The part where I tell her my feelings, my intentions and why I love her so much.
Re: I need a good breakup spe By: sunshinerain / Beginner
Post # 8 Dec 31, 2014
it doesn't sound pure... sorry. to be honest i admire your protection towards her (im sure she does too) if i may suggest one thing--- be careful. either way it sounds like itll crash and burn with one mistake.
fights with upper hand such as knowledge of fighting technique or tactics is considered fighting with a weapon and could cause you some serious time in prison if you kill him. only safe if you aren't the starter of a fight, and you back off the second hes down and unable to hurt you.
Getting proof and calling the cops doesn't necessarily mean she'll break it off though. A lot of people in abusive relationships tend to go back to the abuser. Now, I wouldn't really know what exact spells to use, but a binding spell sounds like a good starter. I've just simply seen loved ones who were in abusive relationships and have seen them go back to their abuser time and time again. Perhaps a binding spell on her so that she doesn't go back to the source of the hurt and pain?
Get proof, call the cops, support her and take her to counseling if you "care deeply" for her.
Besides, have you even casted spell before? It doesn't say anywhere on your profile that you know anything of magic. So if you are new to spell casting, I would not suggest doing so because it could make things worse.
I've been in a similar situation.
So speaking from her defense, depending on the severity, you don't need magick...
She just needs to stress the problem to the abuser...
Aside from the police, getting involved is up to you, but making yourself noticed just on your own can help. Let her know you could protect her..
You can't just say you'll protect her, though.
Act on it.
Just prove yourself to her.
Re: I need a good breakup spe By: hobbitpat / Novice
Post # 14 Dec 31, 2014
As someone who has been in her shoes, things with abusive relationships are really complicated. Before intervening in any degree, it's important to assess her safety. If there is an immediate threat to her safety and well-being, you need law enforcement to step in. Granted, it's not always a end-all happy ending solution, but that's usually the right channel to go through. Offering personal support and putting her in contact with abuse victim resources is a fantastic way to let the person know that you see that they are hurting, and you want to help them transition out of that toxic environment. Doesn't mean they'll always take that help, but sometimes knowing there's an opportunity is enough to get the ball rolling on things.
Again, speaking as someone who has been in abusive relationships, 10/10 would NOT recommend doing anything with the intent to show her you're a better relationship option. She's going to have to relearn how to be her own person before she can get involved with others, and in many abuse victim cases, professional help is needed to remove the lasting damage that abuse leaves. A friend of mine tried to do that with me when I was trying to separate out of a toxic relationship, and not only was it incredibly selfish of him, but it just laid the groundwork for yet another abusive relationship.
