is there help/hope?

Let me start by saying I'm not a practicing anything. I have tried almost everything under the sun, and now I find myself here.
Backstory - I'm 40 years old with 2 upper-teenage children and married for 20 years. My wife, despite all my efforts, simply doesn't love me. She has cheated, lied, manipulated, and controlled me for too long. Understand, I would walk through fire dragging the world with me for this woman. I just can't live this way anymore. Is there some sort of magic or spell or WHATEVER that will help me stop loving her and enable me to move on? I am a sensitive and caring person and don't want that to change, I just want to be able to move on and find someone who will truly love me. PLEASE HELP!!!

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Friend, i am in a similar situation. But our emotions are what makes us who we are. In this case i would suggest doing the hardest thing of all. Walk away from her. It will hurt like almost nothing else. But it will also give you the opertunity to start healing. But for your own health and sanity. Thats the best thing i can think of.

I keep telling myself I will hold out until my youngest (16) graduates HS. But, it's so hard sleeping next to the person you would give your life for and getting nothing but chilly responses. I know I should just walk, but 20 YEARS wasted??? It's beyond repair. Too much pain. Too many scars. Some wounds never heal. My life blood is pooling around my feet with every beat of my broken heart (figuratively). I wish I didn't love her anymore!

Have you sat down and told her this, word for word, and expressed exactly how you feel to her? Communication can help fix things which we otherwise think are beyond repair. Magick isn't always the best solution to mundane problems.

I understand holding out for your kids. But they know something is wrong. And it will hurt them more than help. As for being at your end i can understand that to. Ultimatly you will have to be the one to decide. Just remember, you can only stare into the abyss for so long, before it devours you. 20 years is a long time. But it was not wasted. You have your children. And you tried. And tried. If you love this woman as much as you say you do. The best thing you could do was release her. And maybe in the process release your self. Im certain there are many spells on the site to sour love. But be carefull with magick. It doesnt always do what you want. But what you need. Blessings.

The advice to move on is really the only good advice to give here. Casting often binds one to the target when it comes to matters of the heart. One thing that I have found is beneficial is the age old ritual of burning the pics and letters and tossing the small personal momentos. Its very similar to ritual of burning our dismissals on Samhain. You want to remove her from your life, your heart, and your mind, so remove the things that are linked to her. In addition to this you need to keep active. Get new hobbies and new places that have no links to or memories of her. Most of all, work on learning and accepting your own value and worth. I think you would also benefit from a good cleansing and some healing. As you are not a practitioner I realise you dont have many of the tools of the craft, but you can simply add some epsom salt, some sea salt and perhaps some sage, rosemary,lavender, even a pinch of cinnamon. Light some candles, blue would be good in this situation. Think of yourself and your needs at this time. You are hurt, you need time to heal... put most of your focus on that for now.

Merry meet sorry to hear that try this when everyone's out the house get the following:
2image candles 1male and 1female
rose oil devil shoe string

carve ur name into the male candle and hers into the female
one
now put the devil shoe string next to the image candles and
then cast the circle
light the candles and say:
gods above help me now to revive
my marriage and to sort it out,
my wife has cheated and to that
she debts.
bring back her love and bring back the
sexual passion
that we once fashioned.
harm to none so mote it be.

thank the gods and leave the candles to burn and where U
can see them move the candle closer each day yes do the spell each day. B.b