So I have been married for almost 7 years now, together 12 - my husband is constantly putting me down, he tells me I am weak if I cry, he tells me I am ugly, fat, unattractive, a bad mom, a bad wife, a bad daughter ect.. He tells me that no one likes me, my friends don't know me well enough or they would hate me too. He tells me that his family hates me, my family hates me. I was recently laid off from a job that I had for almost 11 years, and he says it is because they dont like me either. No matter what I do, its wrong or not enough. This weekend he yelled at me and fought with me for about 15 minutes because when he woke up at 1:30 in the afternoon, and came down stairs and said he wanted a coffee and bagel from dunking donuts, i did not get up right away and go and get it for him. I offered to make him something. I was up with the kids and we had already eaten breakfast and lunch and were watching a movie.He is always telling me that there is something wrong with me, and that I need medication and then he would be nicer to me once I "get help". I just don't know what to do anymore. He wont go for counseling until I get medication. i was told that he has a girlfriend she is dating secretly,i need help of a spell that will destroy their love,i want him to love me forever and also is their a spell for him to change his attitude towards me? can a good spellcaster help me pls..i'm so depressed
I am going to say this first. You need to get away from that man. Anyone who controls you and puts you down in such a way does not love you. It sounds to me like you are very dependent on him. If you are such a horrible person, why is he with you? To control you. You are letting him. You are enabling him to treat you this way. Stand up for yourself and be a strong woman. You don't need his nonsense. If there is in fact another woman, then that should put the final nail in the coffin. You do not need magic for this, you need a car and a shrink to get far away and help heal you from his constant downgrading. You are a beautiful woman, and mother that can do this without a horrible man putting you down. He should be supportive and loving, that's a real man.
I'm sorrry for your situation, honey, but nobody qualified here will be willing to cast a spell for you in order to solve your problem so I believe it's in your hands, and trust me that you can do it as well.
I'd personally tell you this:
To be frank, I don't think that you have to tolerate this situation. If you're in an obviously sour marriage you should move out and get a divorce.
In some cases one can cast spells to sweeten up relationships including marriages, it's not something that should be of a problem. However your case is different. It's not something subtle that needs to be sweetened up by some addition of positive energy into the relationship, it's not it. It's a very sever case which can be actually consudered abusive so no spell will make your husband who abuses you to someone soft and gentle, or in other words - someone who he is not. In such a case you shouldn't wait and immediately get a divorce.
I think you'll have the most luck searching for spells under the "Peaceful Home" category. Put "peaceful home spell" into Google and see what comes up. Lucky Mojo has a good online article about peaceful home spellwork You may try sweetening him up with a honey jar spell also. However as I said it won't be too helpful. I still encourage you not to keep being abused in such a case and get a divorce.
You asked for magical advice so i'll not give out any unsolicited practical advice except to say that magic works on the love, tenderness, etc. that a person has in their heart to begin with - it will not turn a cold fish into a Cassanova (not that your husband is a cold fish).
That's not how magic works any way. People give it too much credit. The true magical heavy-weights typically don't dabble with spells that are not justified.
Love spells work on the love a person has in their heart to give. It will not change a person; at most it will just give you their best. Magic will not put a polish on a rotten, worm-eaten piece of wood.
Can you do spiritual changes with magic? Yes. Can you influence the will of another? Yes. It's just not as dramatic as the movies make it out to be.
At best, a good spell will stir up the potential he has and perhaps then he will decide himself to cultivate tenderness on his own terms. A spell will not make him into something he is not. You said he wasn't much of a family man to begin with - go ahead and try magic, you may get great results - also prepare to live the rest of your life with a partner who shows his love for his family differently than you do if you do decide to try your luck with your love life again. Best of luck!
If you message me I can get you two separate spells for your objective... but I think it is best you get a divorce. A true spouse does not put down his/ her partner. Ever.
*hugs* I'm sorry for your situation...NOBODY deserves this! Remember, you are a beautiful, wonderful woman and a child of the Divine. I would get away on a retreat, you can take your children with you if you wish, and do cleansing, protective and healing spells. I would also do positive affirmations at least twice daily. I normally do NOT advocate divorce, but in cases like this it may be necessary. Nobody should have to stay with an abusive spouse.
