I've been asked about how to control being a medium so I decided to share my own experience.
first if you wonder why spirits try to contact you, it may have several reasons. They may need help, some want to contact others and use you as a bridge, some get attracted by your energy and some simply want to show their existence. but some evil spirits may just want to cause some disasters.
although from a very young age I've been having paranormal experiences, yet I was scared of spirits. I couldn't get used to it and in each experience I recall hearing my heartbeat. and also because of being weak, I could easily go into trance and had no control over it. it always made me wonder what if I hurt someone while in trance? so I decided to first understand the reasons which blocked my will power.
The most important factor in this situation is 'Fear'. Fear will weaken your will power and hold you back from taking the controls. and to overcome this factor, you should face what is causing you this. I myself, instead of resisting and trying to get the control, let it go with the flow. I let them do what they were trying to do. contacted them and 'see' them. seeing means understanding them. 'to gain control is to release control'. don't force anything. there is a reason which they are trying to contact you so don't fear them. know that if you understand what being a medium is, you can always contact them without any harm. and if you ask them with the power of will to leave you and simply showing its your area and they cannot stay there, they will leave.
Now for contacting; You can either try talking to them through mind's eye or 'Third Eye' or use an Ouija board. I do not recommend using Ouija board though it can have less dangers when the precautions are taken. But since it opens a 'gate', if you do not pay much attention, evil spirits will use that gate as well. so always be careful when using Ouija board. and never do it alone. its pretty dangerous.
For evil spirits there are lots of thing. you can either banish them or put salt in your room, bless your house or put some stones which absorb negative energy.
And the very last thing, spirits are not something to mess up with. respect them and they will respect you back. wish it can be helpful :)
well these harmful spirits you talk about can be classified as ether a demon or a poltergeist, a poltergeist is a spirit that just wants to case mayhem and destruction but is not as old as some other spirits and is therefore weeker than a demon which i a spirit with morals and also wants mayhem but unlike a poltergeist has been around a lot longer and has a better understanding of things making it seem stronger because it has seen how to do things easyer and may have also consumed other spirits making it stronger and more twisted.
ok now a quiji bord or spirit bord is used to talk to spirits when like me you don't have a very open 3rd eye and can't here the spirits yet. if you know what you are doing you don't usually have to worry about bad spirits because you know protection spells have salt and or sugar will also work, just not as well.
know if you watch scary movies they can highten your senses making communication easyer but remember if you are already good at it this could highten them to much and you could get possessed a lot easyer than someone who doesn't have that natural ability. i would not recommend doing this at knight though because that's when spirits are usually most active and it makes it easyer to get possessed also. if it is not a bad spirit don't be to worryed if it trys to possess you just make sure it knows not to take control of you or it risks becoming a poltergeist faster and later on a demon if it get stronger and stays around longer. now if it's a bad spirit trying to possess you don't let it unless you have had major traning and are 100 persent shure it won't take control, but even then use extreme caution and make sure you have holly water/salt neerbye.
another way to "hear" spirits even if your don't have an open third eye like me though i can hear them from time to time since I could always see them and feel them in the beginning...you can have them talk to you in your dreams since they can control your dreams at times and send you messages...make sure they mean no harm and be nice to them because remember they have feelings too and in fact seem to be more easily to make them get angry and such than a human...though depends on the spirit and human you are talking about also
