My husband needs help...

He is mentally unstable, depressed, and angry. And he's taking it out on me. I've tried to get him to go to therapy, get on anti-depressants, etc. He refuses to get help. He's in total denial. It's ruining what was once a great marriage.

Does anyone have a spell or know of a spell to make him realize that he needs help and then actually go and get the help?

I desperately want to save my marriage and keep my family together. I fear that if he cannot work through his issues, we won't be able to stay together. This is a last resort kind of a thing. Please help!

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Honestly the best wake up calls are the harshest. If talking to him isn't working and he is "taking it out" on you either verbally or physically, abuse is abuse and that isn't something that should be around kids. If you love him and are serious about him getting help, you may need to make the first steps toward leaving him. Maybe consider temporary separation without telling him you're considering it temporary. If he begs you to stay, that's when you tell him you'll only stay if he makes an appointment right there in front of you and starts going to therapy. And if it doesn't happen, you have to go through with your threat. Sometimes that's enough to make them realize they need to change. Or you can wait until he makes you hate him and you leave and never want to return (which is what generally happens).

In terms of magick, I've found through my own experience that unless someone wants to change, you can't make them change. The best thing I can offer in terms of magick suggestions is that you should pray to whatever god(s) you believe in and make a ceremonial offering. Sometimes it's also best to take a step back and look at your own life and see what types of changes you can make to equally help those around you that are willing to accept it. Higher powers tend to only give to those that are willing to give to others. Also look inward. If you are equally depressed, then you need to work toward helping yourself. Higher powers don't like when people want others to do what they themselves are unwilling to do. Those are the two biggest mistakes people make when asking for their prayers to be answered. Look within for answers but stay aware of your surroundings for clues. Clues not signs. We are generally blind to the most obvious answers. Instead we look for what we want to hear or see. It takes us to look within and remove our presumptions in order to see clearly. And then all at once we realize that if it was a snake it would have bit us, because the answer was there all along.

Good luck.

Spellwork I cant provide other then to look for spells to help him realise he needs help. I do think that you may need to take a step back, crash at a friends or something, and take it all in. Perhaps the spell will come to you at that time.

I pray for you, your husband, and your marriage, if it means anything.

I hope things work out for you.

On that same note, people who are mentaly ill, do not know they are ill. If they did know, then they would want to get better. The good sameritan doesnt stop to ask permission to do the right thing. I would suggest trying a simple binding spell on his anger, a freezer spell on the depression and a swee jar to sweeten him to you and the idea of therapy. Maybe start together. Like couples counseling. As far as kids and abuse go, i didnt see any mention of that in your post and did not get a sense of it. If i am wrong then you should definitly take precautions to protect your family and or yourself before anything else.

He could also be suffering from high blood pressure. A banana once a day along with a potato once a day can help lower blood pressure until a doctor can be seen. Chocolate once a day to boost sarotonin to decrease depression until a doctor can be seen. Both of the issues can be fatal to the person as well as those they live with. WhiteRaven is 100% correct. Abuse is abuse. He must get help or you must leave to protect children. If he goes into a rage before you can leave, have police remove him from the home instead. Either way you have offspring to protect first and formost.

Unless by family you mean just you and him with no children, then your first priority is to protect yourself so that you are around to help him.

Yes we have young children. The abuse is verbal/emotional, not physical. And is always targeted to me. I wanted to try this before actually threatening to leave, and upsetting the kids lives. Also, I have nowhere to go, no other family than my husband and children.

He does not have high blood pressure. Physically, he is healthy. Mentally, not so much. He has issues that he needs to deal with. I see a therapist to help me cope.

Thanks for your replies. Thinking of trying the freezer binding on his anger. How should I do that?

do a simple cosmic order asking he realises he needs help. This is the easiest way. His recovery may take some time it won.t happen overnight. If you want more info then message me and i'll gladly share what I know that works.
blessings x

The freezer spell and binding spell were stated for 2 different intents. Or are you thinking of just doing a freezer spell on his anger?

I think it's probably a good idea to do both. I need some advice on how to do each one. I'm feeling a freezer spell on the anger might be best. What do I do? Write his name's anger on a piece of paper, wrap it in tin foil, and put it in the freezer? Then for the binding spell on depression - I need some advice. I've never done either kind of spell before. I've read about the freezer spells. As far as binding spells, I want to be very careful with that one. Most of them seem extreme, and I don't want to do any harm, only good. This is where I really need advice from some very experienced people. Thanks.