my best friend and love

My best friend asked me out 5 years back,told me that he loves me,and made me fell for him as well.now after 5 years he is saying that he always took me as his bestie,he was open with me just as a best friend.But now as i m totally in love with him and scared of loosing him.i dont know what to do? I want him to be with me forever as my best friend as my boyfriend as my everything

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The feelings must be mutual for a relationship to work.

If you become clingy to him, he will end up hating you. Be his friend and don't let your love for him get in the way or you will lose him.

Wow this could almost have been written by me, except mine went on for close to 10 years. In the end however (two years ago), I released him and in so doing released myself from the emotional bondage, opening up my heart to the prospect of others. I know it can be very scary having to put yourself back out there when all the dreams you had with this one person gets shattered but really, you shouldn't have to beg for someone's love. He should give it to you freely but then again, you can;t force him to feel what he doesn't so I think you need to look at moving on if he's made up his mind that he is not interested in anything more. You deserve someone, we all deserve someone, who doesn't have to be forced or coerced in any way, to love us.

But he started this all love thing.I was happy with that best friend type relation.but when he started i was ok with it.he made me fell for him.. so he showed me his love.he used to ask me out every now and then :( which proved me that he is the only one who cares for me loves me gives time and attention to me.he was like a family to me

But he started this all love thing.I was happy with that best friend type relation.but when he started i was ok with it.he made me fell for him.. so he showed me his love.he used to ask me out every now and then :( which proved me that he is the only one who cares for me loves me gives time and attention to me.he was like a family to me

But he started evrything and made me fell for him

What should i do now ..i want him to be there with me... As a best friend or what i dont know... Because i know him .this isnt him.. there is something..i dont know what..thats why he is reacting like this.how to know that whats the reason behind this all

I would just leave him be, or he will end up hating you. If he does not want a relationship like that, then leave him alone.

The choice is entirely up to you, but having come out of a similar situation, I would advise that you move on. You can still be his friend but at least you are not limiting yourself to someone who may not love you "in that way".

I understand that he was the one that encouraged it and in all honestly may have even felt what he thought was more than just friendship at the time, but over time feelings settle and if he is sure this time, then you should accept it. Besides, if in the future he does decide that his feelings have changed yet again, then you can choose to be with him at that future date. So really, letting go at this point helps to give you some more options and may allow in the love that you have been waiting on. Maybe it is another person but until you let go, you will never know. You really have nothing to lose by letting go of him at the moment.