Please if there is anyone who even thinks they know something that might even help a little I beg you to tell me. I have been married for over 3 years to the father of my 3 children whom I've known and loved for over 12 years. I'm not exaggerating when I tell you I have done EVERYTHING in my power to connect with him, make him happy, and keep up the intamacy part as well. He says he loves me often, but it's been years since he showed even a minute of affection. He convinced me his drive for that sort of thing was just gone. And I have believed him over 2 years. He regularly says think less things that can hurt but I took it as he just didn't know how to communicate. The other night however he was extremely harsh about my appearance and so I decided (for the first time ever) to go take a look through his phone. Maybe he was complaining to his friends about what I was doing wrong. I needed to know what to do, what to change. I wasn't ready for what I found. Nothing in his messages about me, but pictures of his coworker.. and not of her face. I'm at a total loss I don't know what to think or do. My life has crashed down around me and I have no control over any of it.
Anyway, my question to you all out there, What do I do? What kind of spell should I try? What will help me, where should I even start?
I'm really sorry to hear about this. You have my sympathy. It's an awful thing. :(
This is not a situation where you need a spell; you need healing. I can't help much, as I've never had that problem, but maybe the two of you should see a marriage counselor. I don't think a spell will really heal your relationship. It may give the illusion of it, but it's only a band-aid on a broken bone.
First off, you're a mother of three...that's superwomen status in my eyes. I would like to continue by quoting a post that has circulated the internet for some time now: People point out flaws in others, that they see in themselves!
I'm sorry, and sad that someone whom you've put all your time, energy and trust in has hurt you in this way. I know one thing that's tried and true, and that's you have to clear the negative blocks in your life to make room for the positive things.
Meditation can help you see the clarity in situations when your clouded by emotions. Spend time and energy in yourself, you need to fall in love with you again and the universe will do the rest.
Sometimes, we are where we feel we deserve to be. The Laws of Attraction could help in this regard. Don't sell yourself short. I know there are spells that would help rekindle a relationship... but I've never known any that had long term benefits - maybe there is someone out there that can attest to the durability of them, but I haven't seen many. Besides, the damage has been done, even if you went ahead and tried to do that, hurtful words cut deep and remain buried until they surface as resentment.
If you feel it's worth salvaging you could go ahead and try to rekindle with a spell, I would in addition consider some couples counselling though, there are children involved, so this may be something to consider. I hope you find some love and light to guide you. All the best.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for both your kind words and sincere advice. Just knowing there are at least a few good hearted nonjudgmental people out there still really gives me a little hope. I have a counciling appointment set up for Monday. Not really sure what it will do to help, but I'll try. Thank you both again so much.
There are tons out there to (supposedly) help this situation.
As for my words of advice, I would definitely encourage you to get some time and space to think of what's really best. Recently, I had thoughts of trying to get my ex boyfriend back, but I remembered what I had been through with this guy. And realized he was not going back to. I had known him for 10 years, since I was 16...and I was emotionally attached to him but as far as I can remember he has always been an problem. Just think if it's worth making him love you or should he love you with his free will. Don't block your blessings, it may be someone out there that's better for you.
I am so sorry I know the pain and the absolute crushing blow to your self-esteem that can bring. You are a very strong woman. While you may not feel like it right now. You have it inside of you to decide what is best for you and you children. You are enough, you are strong enough. Heal yourself. Find yourself. Everything else will fall into place. Blessed be.
