My reason for visiting here is two fold.
To maybe help myself into a position to be noticed for who I am now, not what I was, to my ex girlfriend and to understand more about spells,rituals, magic in general.
I do not wish to manipulate to the point of "this person will take me back no matter what". That is not my intent, and from what I have read never ends well. Or does not work at all.
There are two people in my ex's life that I know(family member over hearing the conversatiosn that Im close with) are manipulating her to keep her guard up to me. One person has had bad experiances with relationships...she is throwing that negativity on my ex and causing me issues. The other is just manipulative and controlling. As much as I would like them to stop, I do not want any harm to come to these people.
I just would like my fair shot again. I just want her to see me as I am now, not what I used to be. These people keep telling her I have not changed and never will.
A quick story: Together 3 years 2.5 very good. I messed up, started becoming somthing undesireable caused by depression whcih was caused by many other things. I was never mean to her, I was always kind, understanding and patient. I sacrifised so much for her, got her to want to go to college, brought her into my family. I did everything I could to try and give her a happy life which she did not have before I came around.
I made changes to my life, exact changes she wanted, but I did them for me. Here I am now. Yet she will not even talk to me about anything reguarding this issue, when I used to bring it up she would start looking at the ground and not give much in the way of conversation. We are still friends.
THats it in a very small nutshell.
What I would like to accomplish: I would like for her to just see me as I am now, not like I was turning into, which was completely reversed. So that maybe I could have a fair shot at her again. If it didnt work I would have to give up on her comepletely, I just cant do that yet.
I love her, I believe there is something still there. I believe she is being manipulated in other ways. She is easily manipulated.
Is there any advice you guys could offer?
I did try this last night. Though I am unsure how effective it might be.
I meditated, got rid of any stale or bad energy by rooting myself.
I carved her name down the length of the candle, a heart, then my name.
Concentrated on a pink candle I had, what my intent was, pured as best as I knew how that will and energy into said candle, and took a break.
I then cleared my mind with the candle in front of me and lit the candle with a wooden match. Put my hands on either side of it and chanted three times.
Notice me,
Notice me,
This is my voice.
Notice me,
Notice me,
This is my choice.
Hear my name,
Hear my call,
See my clothing, my hair, my new life, and all.
Notice me,
Notice me,
I'm thinking of you.
"Her full name, which her last so happens to ryhme with you"
Notice me,
Notice me,
Think of me too.
"Her full name, which her last so happens to ryhme with you"
I ask not of you to fall for me,
That is your own free will.
All I ask is that you see ,my new potential as your life mate in me
knowing all you and I can be still.
Notice me,
Notice me,
This is my voice,
Notice me,
Notice me,
This is my choice.
Hear my name,
Hear my call,
See my clothing, my hair, my new life, and all.
Notice me,
Notice me,
I'm thinking of you.
"Her full name, which her last so happens to ryhme with you"
Notice me,
Notice me,
Think of me too."
"Her full name, which her last so happens to ryhme with you"
Then I let the candle burn down on its own.
As you may notice I got the chant from this website but modified it just a little.
Well most people would say you can't go against someone "Free Will". If that person doesn't wanna be with you, let them go and move on. I would say try a Honey Jar to sweeten things, and maybe even get a reading. I wouldn't suggest a Love Spell until you get the reading first to see where things stand. As well try giving the relationship time to work itself out. If it's meant to be it will. If not then I am sure something is better coming.
Some issues are not meant to look back into. Even in the form of a simple conversation. Why? Because people experienced fear during that time, if they do not fear those days, it is simple: They do not want to have anything to do with it because they have moved on from it. And the results will be what you are experiencing now, including how the family members view you.
It may sound bitter, but there is no family member who will not interfere if the scenario is what happened to you. As the past is what shapes an individual into what he becomes in the present, there is no telling of what he may do in the present if he was put in the same situation, which is the cause of doubt, especially when love is spoken. Men can be a fool for as long as he wants, but for a Lady to act the part, is but dangerous to herself.
If there was ever a reason for you to improve on anything, it will be wise to do it for yourself. As for what you seek, you may have a long way to go for people to acknowledge who you are and whatever accomplishments you have made. You have to be patient.
For the lady, if she has saw the difference in you and she knows she is safe to be with you again, you'll have to give her time. If she shows no interest in interacting in small ways like a simple conversation, it is time you give up on the idea of talking to her!
Overall: It isn't right to initiate a conversation of the past especially if it is for closure if the party is not interested. Think of it as: "You will get there, when you get there!"
It isn't time yet! Focus on your career. If there can be nothing between the two of you. Thank her for sharing her life with you, and move on.
You won't experience what life has yet to offer you or reach greater heights in your career if you stay in the past.
I agree, get a reading first and see what is going on between you two. Cleans yourself and get rid of all negative energy. Regarding the spell, if your intent is pure and there is already love between you two then it should work. Not from one day to the other but with time she will get around to liking you.
I'm in the same position as you. I was with my ex for 4 years, helped each other to do better and introduced our families and everything went great until the last year. I got myself a reading and the lady told me someone had used a separation spell on us. I cleansed myself, got rid of the separation spell and I've been using love spells on my ex, and things are progressing slowly but great. We're still friends and all, but now my ex is in a new relationship, but the love between us is still there. I take it as a rebound relationship, so things are on my favor.
Make sure to keep up with the readings so you know what is going on with your spells, get them from different card readers so you don't feel scammed with the first unless you trust the reader. And best of all STAY POSITIVES and don't lose hope! :)
Bed of luck!
Can anyone tell me if any genuine readers/spell casters.. I see huge amounts of posts regarding fakes but not many of actual trusted spell casters.. I know you guys say writing and doing my own is better but I'd still like the opportunity to talk with a genuine and authentic caster/reader
Crimson, you're better off starting your own thread than making a post completely off-topic in an old thread.
You seem to not realize that you are on a message board full of people who do exactly what you are asking about, and have seen many people scammed by fraudulent others offering services which are never rendered.
You are much better off doing your own work, amd eatablishing your own practice for your own personal life.
