I was wondering, does friend spells backfire too like love spells? Because I know making someone without their free will become close to you or have some type of feeling towards you can backfire in a bad way if its not supposed to happen(for love spells). Does that become the same as friend spells?
With that thinking I don't see why not. After all friends are close people too, like loved ones.
If someone else doesn't like you enough to be your friend (for whatever reason) having them be your friend can be bad for them and for you.
I'm talking about spells with similar intention to the love spells you mention (like, having someone like you). Not about "friend spells" that strengthen your friendship with another person, which in this case is already your friend, for example.
If you are concerned about forcing things that aren't meant to be, I have found a simple solution that would still allow you to do a working to help attract friendship and/or love.
The trick is in having just a slight shift in perspective and intent. This will in turn shift the method and wording of your working. Instead of working a spell to draw a specific individual to you, who may or may not actually form a beneficial relationship, work your intent into a specific goal instead. Redirect your efforts from an individual person to a specific benefit, and ask that relationships come to you that help you reach that benefit.
For example. Instead of working a spell for 'john Q curley the third' to be your friend, examine what it is that you see in that person that draws you to wanting friendship from him to begin with. Generosity, maybe an air of wisdom or experience that you could learn from or look up to, maybe he is 'infectiously happy', or just energetic and fun. Whatever those traits are, write them down as those are what you will be calling for.
Contemplate those traits, and why you feel a draw to bringing them into your life. Is it out of compatibility? IE, looking for people of a like mind that you can feel connected to? or is it because you are missing those experiences currently and are looking for someone who might fill a void? Or are you looking for a connection to a role-model or someone you otherwise can look up to and learn from?
Also test yourself against those traits and why you are looking for them. Be honest with yourself. For example if you are looking for generosity is it because you are hoping they will give you things, or because you want opportunities to share a common trait? If, in hard reflective honesty, it is for personal gain then simply discard that trait from the list you've made and continue with the rest.
Quick tip on self-reflection, people are masters at justification. If you catch yourself looking at one of the traits and telling yourself anything along the lines of "It's a little selfish but..." then the truth of the statement exists in everything said before the 'but'. Be honest with yourself and own it. Honest reflection breeds honest decisions.
Once you understand what you are looking for, do a working to declare your desire to gain a mutually beneficial friendship with a person (or people) who will best assist you in finding or learning those traits.
This leaves it open for any potential individuals to feel a nudge and still have free will to answer that nudge or not. It might mean you don't gain the friendship you expected, but it helps lead you to one that might end up being better for you and your developing as a person. Think of it as a more internal act of opening yourself -to- beneficial friendship rather than an act of making someone your friend.
Making a person doing something against their free will is never a good idea, for them and for you. Things can definitely backfire. Perhaps the desired friendship is not what you thought it would be and the person can become very clingy. Another approach to attract friendships (if that is your goal) might be to be open to possibilities. Attract new people to you so you can be introduced to some potential new friends. Also, reflection on why you want to do a spell is important. It may end up guiding you to a proper spell. If you want to control a person's behaviour and have them become your friend, it may mean you have low self-esteem and believe you NEED their friendship/approval/company to feel complete. It may be worth someone's while to invest in working to increase your vibrations and self-esteem.
all spells have a potential to backfire, but it's a lot rarer than people think [while i don't cast a ton of spells, i've never had a spell backfire on me, usually a spell simply will not work for whatever reason] friendship spells could backfire, but just put that doubt to rest as doubt is a major reason spells don't work or backfire.
regarding free will, casting over someone is frowned upon, there isn't an actual rule against it [unless you're Wiccan and see this as harmful, therefor there is a rule, however as its been stated a ton of times, not all witches are Wiccan] so when you cast over someone it can wear off quicker than normal because of their own free will. backfiring however is when you cast a love spell on someone you have a crush on but instead they start avoiding you. [and the only time i've heard of a spell actually 'backfiring' is if the person you cast on finds out about the spell, but i think this is a belief, not a rule] all spells wear off eventually and this is not backfiring. you cast a love spell on your crush, start dating, but break up a week later, it isn't because it backfired, it's because the energy wore off and this person realized you have nothing in common.
back to friendship spells, you can always cast a spell stating you open yourself to the possibility of having new friends, or how you desire to meet like-minded people and not casting a spell and stating 'i want to be friends with Henrietta' because that can be problematic and entering into 'free will' territory. but if you choose to carry a friendship charm and join a few extra clubs, that won't effect free will or run the risk of backfire, and you're simply sending signals to the universe you want to meet like-minded people, your energy will then attract what you seek [like a magnet technically]
