Hello
I am very new to this so bare with me please.
I have a situation with a friend who Is very angry with me and I don’t know why . We never had any arguments or anything negative . Anyways we have known each other 3 years and we have been through a lot together. I have always no matter what stuck by her side. I joined today and cast 2 friendship spells . Don’t know if I did that right Do I need a reading or what? Please advise. Thank you
She will not talk with me . She came out of an extremely abusive situation. I saw here very briefly a month ago and she screamed at me and left. I don’t know if the friendship spells will work. I don’t want to mess with her free will.
Well, to be fair Ruben, I wouldn't say -quit- casting spells, but put a hold on the idea for a while. Take some time to do some studying. Read some books on symbolism and magic, and meditation. Personally I also recommend looking up some philosophy texts as well. Introspection and mindful Self-awareness go a long ways in helping you form a solid internal compass for right action.
I know it doesn't exactly help you with your current situation, and that sucks. I've had friends mysteriously decide they weren't going to be me friend any more. It's alarming, disheartening, and all in all inspires a huge mess of self-doubt and confusion. The worst part is not even knowing the -why- of the situation. what went wrong, was it something said? Was it something done? Was it something someone else said? All this rolled up into a ball of frustrated wishing that whatever went wrong could be made right. But without knowing what the problem was, it renders it impossible to even try fixing things.
There are some ideas for things you -can- do though. first, do what you can to let go of your worries over what may have damaged the friendship. At least until you can look back on things in a more objective mindset. Regardless of what happened,it happened, and she made a choice as a result. You can't take responsibility for her choices, only your own. And likewise your focus and energy might be better spent on examining the choices you made over the course of the friendship, and any choices you might make in the future in learning from yourself.
Second, the more you chase after something the more likely it is that it will move away from you. Out of instinct if nothing else. If you get an opportunity to talk to her again, use it to simply (and calmly) express your regret at the loss of the friendship, however you want to word it. Maybe take some time to think about what you would say, in two sentences or less, as a personal exercise. Not to be poetic or compelling, but to be truthful and from the heart. And endit with letting her know you are still open to talking whenever she decides she is willing. Then walk away and let it be. Place the ball in her court, and step back to allow her to play it. Even if that play is to do nothing.
To help create such an opportunity, if you are still set to do something symbolic and based in magic, i would suggest a honey-jar spell. the idea behind it isn't necessarily to take another's will, or to compel a specific outcome. It is a much more general influence of either clearing the air, or inspiring a 'sweetening' of the emotions between you. So rather than influencing decision it is about creating an atmosphere of clear thought to inspire communication.
The process is fairly simple, and needs only a few basic components. There are plenty of examples on the website here, and also online elsewhere. if you are having trouble hunting one down just google "Honey-jar spell for friendship". it will give you some sources of information.
