Hello everyone.
I had been on this site about 4 years ago. I wanted to find a diet spell but instead i got many more interesting information which changed my opinion on many things. So I've been reading many books on various topics since then. Now I'm back here because something has happened over these 4 years. The first year was amazing, I felt like everything was going great and I was the best me, I was confident, happy and most importantly, free. But as soon as the second year started I started to become antisocial, I couldn't find a reason to hang out with my friends anymore, the only reason I would go out was my school, I started to have depression, anxiety, stress and so on. My situation got worse overtime, until, today that I'm writing this topic. I've been asking myself, what's my dream? what's my passion? What is it that I want to do the most? What gives me meaning? And strangely, I can't come up with an answer. The only thing that makes me comfortable is thinking about vanishing into thin air. I used to have many dreams and passions but now my mind just goes blank when I try to remember.
Now I know my dear concerned friends out there will tell me to get help from a therapist but I have, it didn't work. I know there's something else I have to fix first, but I don't know what it is. So I've been wondering if someone has cursed me. Because no matter how hard I think I can't find out why I've ended up like this! I would love to hear your opinion. If you think it's a curse, what's the cure? And if not, what is it and how can I heal myself again?
I wouldn't jump to the conclusion of a curse, personally. If you want to do some spells to counteract curses just in case, you could do so, though. I'm a big supporter of writing your own spells, because I've found them to be much more effective when the caster writes them, but I'm sure many people would be happy to offer some advice when it comes to curse removal (I'm more experienced in spells for curse prevention rather than curse removal, but I'd still be happy to offer pointers if needed).
This does sound like it's probably a psychological issue to me, though; I don't personally think curses can be powerful enough to physically affect the chemicals in your brain. Can I ask how long you went to a therapist? Therapy can take a frustratingly long time to work, but if you stick with it, it can greatly improve your condition. You could also ask your doctor about medication to see if that would work better for you.
I'm not a psychologist, but I have recently started seeking psychological help, and I have family and friends who suffer from mental illness, so I can tell you that sometimes it's something that lasts a really long time. Sometimes it's a lifelong struggle. It sucks, but it can get better, and continuing to seek psychological help seems like the best course of action to me.
As a hypnotherapist and life coach, if you came into my shop, told me this and asked if you were cursed I would say "No." I am assuming, of course, that you came in and I did not feel something cursing you or the like. Based off of your description I would say that a curse is highly unlikely. What you have is a cycle of negativity and depression that you need to break.
Your mind is like a computer. Your conscious is the processor. All it does is take in information and run programs. Your subconscious is the hard drive. It stores all the programs. What happens is that your subconscious has programs that are negative and depressing. So, when you meet your friends you want to be happy and have a good time. However, when your conscious mind looks to the subconscious to get the "hanging with friends" program, it is a negative or depressing one, and that is what you experience. So, what you need to do is change the program.
There is a way to do it without therapy, hypnosis or anything like that. It is contained in six magic words: Fake it till you make it! Now, this might sound like foolishness, but I assure you that it is not. First, since you stated that you have seen therapists, I am assuming that there is not some kind of chemical imbalance in your metabolism causing the depression. If you are not sure about that, ask your physician. If there is nothing chemical or physical causing that, then it is in your head. Now, the subconscious mind holds all the programs, but it is dumb as a box of rocks. It doesn't change very well or reason well. That is the conscious mind's job. But, it can be tricked. This is the fake it till you make it process. Your part is easy. Just act like and pretend like you are having fun. The subconscious will eventually change.
Behind the scenes, this is what is happening. You are pretending to have fun. But, the subconscious says "No. Depression." But, you continue having acting like you are having fun. Then, it goes "This does not match the program. Depression!" But, you continue to have fun. Then, it will eventually go "Depression?" And, eventually, the program will change to "Fun!" This occurs because the subconscious does not know the difference between imagination and reality. It is all real to the subconscious. Eventually, it will build a new connection, changing the association of being with friends from "depression" to "fun".
Now, we can usually do this rather quickly with hypnosis or NLP. If you know a good practitioner of either of those, I suggest you go that route. If not, it will take time. Look at how much time you have spent reinforcing the negativity and depression programs. It will take a long time to form new neural paths on your own with will power alone. But, if you remain vigilant of the thoughts and feelings you are having and work at acting out the ones you want to have, you can change them.
Truth is I don't believe in curses. I think they don't affect you unless you let them. But a friend of mine insisted on this and I though asking about it won't hurt. I don't ask people to do spells for me either. I share the same opinion as you. Thanks I will definitely ask you if I needed help. I went to therapy for 2 years but it changed nothing. The therapist just gave me a bunch of pills which made me super sleepy and I couldn't function normally throughout the day. I'm just so lost and frustrated at the moment that I can't find a correct explanation to my situation. Everyone around me says that I'm not depressed so I really wonder what it is
Thank you I find your advice very helpful but there is a problem. My circumstances make it impossible for me to hang out with friends at all. I haven't seen any of my friens for over a year because my family moved to another city. It is a long story and I can't change my situation. But thanks
