I got married in year 2014, a month after our marriage my husband cheated on me 3 times. From then, I know my love for him is already fading. I tried to hold on and make our relationship work. We have 2 kids and I don't want them to grow with a broken family so I stayed. Things are getting worst when he doesn't want to do his obligation as a father so I work full time to feed my kids. Until one day,I met someone and to make the story short, I fell in love to that person. I found a escape. I decided to leave my husband and live with that person. We are perfect together and we are happy but my husband keeps on bugging us, he is begging for me to come back to him. I can see that he has changed, he finally got a job. He keeps on talking to my kids and asking my kids to convince me to go back to him so we could be family again. What is more perfect for kids but for their parents to be together again, right? Then 3 of them are asking me to give it another chance. So I did for my kids. Now that we are living together again, I can't find my happiness. I tried but I really don't love him anymore. Even with or without another party involved, I can't force myself to love him. I am now being unfair coz I am always pretending. I don't want to hurt him but I really can't force myself. I want him to give his love to someone else, to someone who can love him back. I tried to talk to him but he said that he just want me to stay. But he don't deserve all these treatments. He deserve someone else. I need help to make him fall inlove to someone else. If there's a spell to bind two people, that could help too.
I personally don't believe love spells are ever really the answer. In situations where they are called for, I tend to believe that honest communication works better, particularly because I find love spells to be a bit manipulative in nature.
If you honestly don't love him anymore, you need to talk to him. You don't deserve to be part of relationship where you're not happy, and he deserves to have the chance at being in relationship where someone loves him back. Neither of you is winning here.
If your concern is for your children, talk to them too. Nothing has to necessarily go very sour in this. If you and he can remain on good terms, then your children will not feel they are in the middle of it. Even if they feel confused now, maintaining honest communication with them (even if it's in simplified terms, they don't necessarily need to know all the details) will help, and they will understand more clearly when they're older.
Kids tend to think that adults have all the answers, but as they approach adulthood themselves, they start to realize that we don't. If you have been clear with them about how your arrangement is going to be, they will be more open to understanding it and why it became that way once they're older.
As for him, he may still be pushing you to stay because he doesn't realize how you're feeling. If you feel this clearly, you should tell him. He may be hanging on because he doesn't understand that it's already over for you. He may still be feeling that this can be fixed. If you think it can be, it's up to you. But if you think this is beyond repair, you should tell him. He will be more open to moving on if he knows he is not abandoning something salvageable.
It's not up to you to make him move on. That's something he has to do and deserves the opportunity to do on his own. Worry about creating a better life for you where you can find happiness, and for your children where they feel safe and loved. If you can do that with him, it might be worth trying to fix. If you can't, it sounds to me like there isn't really a decision to make. Best of luck to you in working it out.
