Bonjour.

you should always love and take care of yourself

I say don't go throwing myself off a cliff, but I honestly don't put much thought into my well being.

not good, how can transcend and become closer to the lord and lady if you dont take care of yourself?

The Lord and Lady? I'm not exactly sure we're on the same page religion wise. You worship the traditional Wiccan gods correct?

i worship the goddess and the god

I don't believe in a goddess. Eh, just my religion.

to every man his own path

So, where do we go from here?

wherever you want =)

Black magic? No black magic? You won't get any results at all if you don't practice your basics first. Besides, the best way to sort it out is to just talk it out.