sadly you can't force her to make friends, nor can you force the other children to be hers. when i was in the 7th grade i moved to a new school [for the 5th time might i add] and i was 18 hours away from any of my friends i grew up with [i went to two different schools, but that was because one closed down, so i had the same group of friends for about 5 years] now i'm at this new school, shy and sad and just want to be alone. on the second or third day there this teacher came up to me and told me to make friends, i said no, so she dragged me over to the nearest group of girls my age and told me they're my new friends and every time i broke away from them she would drag me right back over to them. 16 years later i'm still friends with one of them, and facebook friends with 2 of them. the other 6 in the group bullied me relentlessly for 3 years.
what i would do is convince your sister to join a club or something be it in her school or outside activities [library or sports team] that way she can find a common ground to bond over. it would be nice to have friends her own age, but everyones different. when i got to high school i made friends with kids younger than me, and my best friends as an adult are 3-5 years younger than me. heck, my best male friend was in my younger sisters grade. it's wise to keep an eye on your sister, but some people make friends differently.
regarding a confidence spell, there's a few options but like with the friends your sister has to be willing. you could try a daily chant [some might call them affirmations] to try and subconsciously boost confidence. there's also crystals. carrying/wearing a crystal can effect your energy. so carrying a crystal that has energies for inner strength can also help. there's also less magickal but still helpful things like meditation, balancing chakra's, journaling, even goal setting. [say your sister make the goal to ask to sit with a kid at lunch, or join in if there's a group playing] you could also try a wish spell, say light a yellow candle and visualize your sister making a friend. you could also write the wish on a bay leaf and burn it.
I can't thank you enough. Sharing your story made me relieved a little. Since I've always been able to find someone to hang out with even though I have nothing in common with them I really don't know what to do when it comes to my sister. I've asked her to make few friends now and then but she says that everyone avoids her cause she's not fun to be with since she has the logic and mindset of an adult. I'll try the things you said and I know that eventually something will work :)
There are 3 layers of confidence in my book I believe confidence is control. there's a gap between where you are and where you want to be.
Confidence is how much control you feel you have over this gap. You can be where you are right now and still be confident though.
Surface Level:
This level is everything that the world can see including:
your smile
your voice
your face
the way you move
The way you talk
It can be faked unless you have the lifestyle layer.
The lifestyle layer is how proud you are of having the life you want.
Career
schooling
Where you're from
where you live, (trailer etc)
your relationships.
A way to bring this up is to go to social events or to look at your life things that you've already done and survived
Third level is how much you love yourself
Tips:
* do whatever makes you feel like a million bucks every morning
work on your body
do something fun
and other things.
My son has this same problem but he's a little older. I did make him am amulet of self love and recharge it often with my own loving energy. I mean, who else loves you more than your mama. Another thing that he thinks is silly, but a girl of her age might love doing it, was mentioned above. Affirmation chants. Do it with her and make it fun. She's young so I wouldn't suggest something like makeup but maybe a girls night doing something fun like a facial, mani/pedi, and a nice soak in a rose quartz infused tub (you can do this ahead of time, then both of you look in the mirror together and simply tell yourselves how beautiful you look and feel, you are confident and people like you, and most importantly how much you love yourselves. Doing it with her will not make her feel singled out and feel less silly about doing it herself.
Set an example for her by only using positivity around her. Talk yourself up around her so this becomes "normal" to her. Even if you fell hideous tell yourself outloud, I love how soft my hair feels today, this shirt makes my skin look so bright, etc. Lead by example. Set a goal to compliment somebody you see every day in front of her so she can be witness to your outgoingness. She is watching and listening.
I know my suggestion here will looked very weird to you all, but this is all based on my thought
First,its usual that there is blackmagic,to draw out person socializing energy,and effect of it the person is become down and desperate
Second,there is too spirit,that may attach to her body giving vibrant like shyness ,so where your sister hang out before her shyness thing? Spirit came maybe from other places
Third,I think friendness because magic forcing is not so good ,let the nature goes walk away,find true friends not parasite friend
Forth,there is a way for everybody,like branch ,always so many fork,what if shyness ,make bad socialize friend got away from her ,I mean if her to much socialize ,then there is a parasite friend, just use people and don't responsible, but this is all just bit of pararelity of destiny,your choice is what you get
fifth,is she an indigo? If yes maybe you should give her stronger her talent.
Sixth,if you gonna give her charm or magic,
Look at her soul energy ,do the charm clash with her soul energy ,I mean magic give effect,but maybe it decrease other aspect
In my experience to calculate this you need numerology,from all aspect of her ,then find or create magic tthat fit with her energy
Seven,all of this world created by
yin and yang aspect(look at pharaoh chariot
In picture Egypt there always male female aspect)so every pain ,every sick is giving more study to us how to get rid of that,
Person that always be helped,for long time that person forgot his ability ,or
If god just give knowledge again and again ,the person forgot how to enlighten himself ,without true tapas person can't find absolute of his self
Be careful in this live,many bad things can shape shift to become look like good things
May universe help your sister get best way for her
Thank you for your advice.
You asked whether she used to hang out before the shyness thing. Well since she used to be in kindergarten I don't really know much about her social and friendship matters from back then. Besides she wasn't able or i think didn't want to express her problems so she didn't talk about those things until now. But I think she used to be more sociable.
Right now whenever someone other than me (be it our mother or father or someone else) tells her that she's doing something wrong she gets so ashamed that she becomes aggresive and tells the person that she won't do that thing at all. For example when she's playing and she falls down and someone tells her that she should be careful she tells the person that she won't play at all. And she really won't play until I go to her and comfort her.
The next question you asked was wether she's an indigo child or not.
I don't know how you exactly define indigo but my sister is bad with school and studying and it almost takes her forever to do her homework! Though I might say that lessons we learn are really hard in my country. But anyways she understands some difficult things that surprises everyone. I can say that I'm also like her but I do my best to keep up with school as well.
Tnx but the problem is that she's only 9 and there's a high chance that she will miss it while playing. Since she always loves to play in the nature :))
