I need help.I have a friend who has a very possessive husband. He recently went out of town for business and set up video and audio recorders to keep an eye on her while he was out of town. They have 2 small children and she does not go anywhere since the one is sickly and cannot go out much. I am looking for a spell, candle preferably, to help ease his possessiveness. He is not physically or verbally abusive at all either. Any suggestions?
What Purple said is correct, his action is a form of abuse, however his intention may not be to harm. She could try talking to him about it, maybe see about getting him counseling(they do have couples counseling now so she could go with him), and if all else fails she could drag him onto a talk show. Just not Jerry Springer if she wants the relationship to work. Dr.Phil could be a good one.
I was married the first time for almost 7 years. My husband was never physically abusive. He finally decided to leave me.
Over a year after our divorce, I began realizing how much he has brainwashed me! He was very mentally abusive and I never saw it coming and did not even realize until had been over for quite a while.
Your friend is in a situation that no person male or female should ever be in.
Emotional and mental abuse is just as serious as verbal and physical. As mentioned above, your friend needs to get out while she can.
Most of us who have been in situations similar understand the " I can't leave I have no where to go", "what about my children, I can't provide for them", "he's going to change, he said so".
They can leave, the children will be better off and no, he will never ever change. EVER.
Make the calls, find a support system and get her out. That's the best way to help.
And for the record, people who distrust their partners for no apparent reason do so because of guilt of their OWN actions.
I agree with nevermore..she needs to take a long good look at her situation and get out. they promise you the world and make it like you can't live without them but being that i've also been in this situation before i can honestly tell you that he will not change and he will get worst as time goes on..she needs to get out and find a battered shelter to temporarily stay at till she can get on her feet and provide for herself and her children..Please tell her don't wait till it becomes violent to finally leave because in most cases it can turn out very very bad...Trust me...