Have you discussed this with him? Often sex drive is related to emotional state as well. Make sure to communicate with him and see if he is going through something or if there's some stress that is keeping him from focusing on sex or getting in the mood.
Another thing you can try is mixing it up a little bit. Monogamous relationships can hit a rut every now and then sexually due to routine, so talk with him. Ask if there is anything he's always wanted to try. Or if there is something you have been wanting to try, you should let him know.
Another thing you can do is really set the mood. Plan ahead. It might not feel spontaneous, but you could really plan something romantic to get you both on the same page emotionally and sexually. Candles, a nice dinner, whatever comes to mind when you picture a romantic night with him. You might even try surprising him this way. There are plenty of small romance spells you can do here or lust spells to get the energy around you feeling right too.
I really think the best solution in sexual situations is to discuss it with your partner though. If you're feeling neglected or have a higher sex drive lately, explain what you're feeling to him. Tell him what he could do to help you. Ask if there is anything in the way or any reason he seems out of it to you lately, and ask if there is anything you can do to help him. Communication is key here. Lust spells are fun, but they're no substitute for communication if there really is something you two need to discuss.
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