Hello everyone. I have a question. My friend is looking for a spell to get revenge on her ex but she doesn’t have a picture of him she can print out or doesn’t have his last name for some odd reason. He has hurt her multiple times and has told her very awful things like for her to harm herself. It’s disgusting and she shouldn’t have been treated like this. Does anyone recommend any spells for her so I can message her it/them?
If he's an ex, she should not remain in contact with him. There would not be a way for him to continue making such abusive comments.
As for the image and last name, she would need neither for any working directed at him which she chooses to do. Both of them are simply a clear representation of the person. Anything she has which she associates with him would do. If she still wants an image of him, a simple stick figure with his name across it would suffice.
On that note, such a drawing could be the base for such a working. Begin with something of the like: A simple drawing or stick figure with the ex's name written on it. Then write insults, negative wishes, and other such things over the name and the drawing until the name can no longer be read or the figure recognized. Discard the image without distinction: Toss it unceremoniously into the garbage, before scraping greasy food scraps over the top. Or flush it down the toilet. Whatever. He's not worth the time. He's been desecrated. He's done with.
But it is important to discontinue contact with the person. That cannot be understated.
Like stated a photo or last name isn't exactly required. Two candles of differing color can be used. You'd place them close together, light them, then move them away from each other further and further over time. When done safely in candle holders appropriate for the candles, or on a fire safe surface, this can be a powerful working. It is called a separation working. Used to separate oneself or another from a harmful influence, or person.
It need not be done with candles only. Writing the first names of the people involved on two papers, one name for each paper, and then putting them down close, and then separating them and moving them apart after some time, and finally tearing the paper holding the offender's name apart can work as well.
Good luck. And yes your friend needs to break all contact with her ex preferably. For her own well being.
This guy sounds like a real piece of work. You’re right your friend should not have to suffer continued abuse and there needs to be complete separation from him. I am sure you and your friend are feeling some pretty powerful emotions towards this joker, who wouldn’t. Anger, hatred, pain and vengeance are natural and legitimate emotions to have over what he has done and is still doing.
You have ever heard the saying; “Revenge is a dish best served cold”? You might want to take this to heart when trying to separate and discard him from your friend’s life.
The energy born from strong emotions like anger, hatred, pain and vengeance is powerful and destructive. It is also inherently unstable because of the intensity and passion these emotions invoke. If this energy is simply unleashed like a blast towards the person that is tormenting it stands the chance of being wild and erratic. The last thing your friend needs is a backfire or backlash and get hurt by the very thing being used to drive him away.
If you or your friend hit him with a burst of energy filled with vengeance and it does not accomplish what you intended what happens? This guy is an animal, it would be like slapping a bear hard in the face and it does not drive him away, what have you accomplished? You now have an angry bear on your hands.
Whatever you and your friend do needs to be focused, directed like an arrow into a target and above all needs to be cold. Meditate and bring down the emotional intensity until it is ice cold. Whatever you hope to accomplish should be of like kind, not in excess of what has been done. If you overdo it any excess has the potential of coming back. What I am saying is don’t get carried away, be cold and deliberate, no raw emotion. You are trying to separate not escalate. Be deliberate and measured and accomplish what your friend needs. If you go in with the intension of wiping him from the face of the earth that will come back on your friend.
I'll probably be called out a bit for being the proverbial fluffy bunny, but I often find the best revenge to be simply letting go and moving forward. Drop him and leave him behind as you would the leftover skin of a banana. And give it no more thought or energy than that. Grow, learn, and become a better person yourself. Then, years later be satisfied that you elevated yourself above that time, making it no more than a footnote on life's journey.
Wanting revenge is an admission that he is still influencing and affecting you/your friend. His energy and toxicity is still being held on to, and carried with both of you. Why bother? It sounds like a wadte of effort to me.
Besides. One can not push a person down into the mud without being down there with him.
Have your anger, have your sadness, but then let it go and stop letting it continue to harm you.
You are not a “fluffy bunny”. Your advice is very good advice. Letting go and moving forward and learning from the experience should be the first thing she attempts. Unfortunately, from what I gather from the situation as it’s being described she is faced with a tormentor that is continuously attacking her without provocation. She is being bullied. Once a bully finds a victim they generally don’t stop. You have to resist a bully.
In a situation like this it is sometime necessary to take additional action. As I hoped I pointed out the goal is too “separate not escalate”. She should make an effort to remove all raw emotion that she feels from being attacked. Focus and act with deliberation and accomplish what she needs which is to stop the attacks and separate. Most important is to never take it to excess. Don’t walk up and slap a bear in the face and expect good results. Letting yourself be ruled by your emotions and lash out will backfire. I hope I made this point clear. If not, I am repeating it here.
Sometimes less is more. What CrystalSeer suggested is excellent advice. Affect a separation and not retaliate. Prsona gives good advice as well as a means to devalue the influence this jerk has gained over her. Neutralized the sway he has and then “discard it without distinction” from herself. I don’t read a suggestion for an overt attack in his advice. I think what he suggests is important to restore her sense of self worth that has been harmed.
You have to resist a bully or it won’t stop. People like this have a tendency to destroy themselves eventually. Yes, simply walking away should be the first, best option. Once a separation has been affected, she put it in perspective and realize the problem lies with this fool and not her.
