Sorry I didn't explain, there is no good way to put this, but here goes.
I am in a stage of life where I have to stay with in-laws for 6 months. They hate my guts and the 10 year old has started to pick on me for "training their family pet". She saw it as me harassing the dog and claims to her mother that I making the dog feel sad simply because it stop barking. Pet belongs to her brother who shuns everyone and stays in his basement. This dog is neglected and is only used as an anti-depressant. The dog pee's/poops everywhere, barks non stop even after the guest have arrived and jumps on the couch. If someone sits on the couch she growls until the person gets up and leaves. The 10 year old girl is controlling the whole family and the dog is her weapon. She know's what she's doing and she has confronted me about how much she hates seeing me here and has told me that she does not want me to stay here. I just told her I feel the same way and ask your mother why she let me stay. It's not like I wanted to.
So what the 10 year old did and I have caught her doing, she purposely irritates the dog and tells it to attack anytime I enter the living room. The dog tries to bite me and I just ignore the dog. I tell my husband and he thinks it's my fault and believes that I am bullying a 10 year old. The 10 year old girl has tried to get me her attention and then out of nowhere it somehow has to do with making the dog feeling sad. So she has some kind of vendetta thing going on and uses the dog as a way, in her hopes that it will make me move out? That is beyond my control right now. I just need 6 months to get my life together. Explaining to the 10 year old my life situation is seen as harassment so I just don't. I've been avoiding the in-laws by staying in my room until my husband comes home, because he's not there to see me as the victim . I would have to wait until everyone leaves then I get to eat.
I could just take pictures of the living conditions this dog lives in, it's horrible and I know animal control can take their dog for neglect. However, they would know who did and then I would have all of their negative energy on me and I don't need that. On top of that, they will most likely put the dog down anyways.
I am not afraid of the dog, just maybe concerned with my marriage being on the line. Something the mother in-law wants is for my husband and I to separate and seeing me having a problem with their dog is the key. She lets the dog get aggressive towards me. That's how I know. Of course my husband is such a mama's boy and won't man up to fix his credit. He may be comfortable with his parents, but I am not. He doesn't understand what I go through. If I take their source of power away from them then there is no excuse for this little girl to keep on attacking me.
Re: Animal death spell ideas? By: Kaurora / Novice
Post # 5 Mar 03, 2020
So without getting into too much detail, from what I read, this does not appear to be about the dog at all. The dog is honestly, irrelevant in this situation other than a nuisance.
My concern and what your primary focus should be is that you are married to someone that does not have your back nor is willing to stand up for you. He is siding with his relatives. That should be a red flag. It does not mean the relationship is bad, just broken at this time and you both need to work on developing a better line of communication.
I do feel that nothing will improve in your current living situation. The fact that this 10 year old is battling it out with you to me is something slightly immature. This is a child. They are 10. They should have any control over you or the situation. If you allow them to and respond as such to instigate (I am not saying you are but sometimes we don't process our actions when experiencing extreme emotion), then your situation will never improve.
Removing the dog from the situation isn't going to solve anything, if that, it will only open up more things for the household to focus on and target you for. If I were you I wouldn't care if they knew it was me that called animal control. If the conditions are as deplorable as you describe than it isn't a living environment for you to be staying in. Animal control can remove the dog and put it in a good home. If they are just going to put it down anyway, as you stated, than they wouldn't care if the dog is taken away.
I would focus on you and your spouses relationship. During such a difficult transition, you both should be supportive of each other and it does not appear that you are getting that needed support. Hopefully you can speak to him about it. If you are stuck in the house then try leaving during the day. Join a club or group (usually these are free) or find a part time job to stay busy. Take steps towards self support and self sufficiency. It will improve you self esteem and overall outlook.
I'm with the last comment. The dog is only doing what it's doing from lack of training and what his or her family is saying to do. Removing the dog gives them another reason to blame you. Work on your relationship with the husband, and focus on brining you're life back on track. You could also try and gain the animal trust as well. By feeding the dog or building a bond with the animal so, it may end up listening to you more then the family.
By the sound of it the dog itself could use some more positive attention from another person rather then what the current family is given. You could also try and get along with the child, for the child herself may also be a victim to the mother. A weapon for the mother in law, if not, just work on the relationship and sit down be patience with your husband and try to explain to him your situation again.
